Singer Melanie Martinez accused of sexual assault by best friend on Twitter
22-year-old singer Melanie Martinez rose to prominence on The Voice, and went on to make the hit single "Dollhouse." On "Dollhouse," she sings about a family that seems perfect, but once you "look through the curtain," you realize they each have serious problems. "It's about how everyone has their problem and you’re never gonna truly see them," Melanie told Fuse TV. "You think that things are perfect, but everyone has sh-t that they go through."
The subject matter seems ironic, in the wake of a shocking story shared by one of Melanie's former best friends on Twitter. Timothy Heller - whose Twitter bio reads "yes i'm a girl named timothy" - is a singer who says she used to be close with Melanie, until one night she took advantage of her. "I have kept this secret for years, convincing myself that it wasn't a big deal and I wasn't hurt by it," she writes. "The thought of accepting that my best friend raped me seems insane."
At first, the two women had a deep friendship. "I felt like I owed her my life," writes Timothy. "My life began to revolve around hers. I had my own problems, but if I could focus on her life, I could put off dealing with my own inner turmoil for just a bit longer." However, as Timothy grew more dependent on Melanie, she allowed Melanie to have more and more power. It "grew and grew" to the point where she felt like she was under Melanie's control.
"The power she had over me, grew into me having a very hard time saying no to her," writes Timothy. "I would do almost anything for her...I had to apologize for having an extreme panic attack, where I thought I was going to die. Because it ruined her night. Endless incidents like this. I had become a problem."
This led to an awkward encounter during a sleepover, when Melanie "became increasingly interested in [Timothy's] sexual preferences:
"As someone who had previously been through sexual abuse, sex is hard for me to talk about...She began asking me while in bed if I would have sex with her. While being incredibly uncomfortable by this offer, I attempted to laugh it off. I had a boyfriend at this time, and she knew that ."He doesn't have to know, it's not a big deal!" It went on for hours. Asking me WHY I didn't want to, that it would be fun. I repeatedly said no. I had work in the morning. I just wanted to sleep. I was exhausted. I attempted to sleep but was kept up the entire night by my friend begging me to sleep with her. It seemed strange, but she was my best friend. I said no, and I thought we could move on."
But Melanie didn't move on. The following night, she made a second attempt, and after smoking some marijuana, Timothy found it especially hard to resist.
"The next night unfortunately went the exact same way. Regardless of my response the first night, she was not giving up...She convinced me to smoke weed, and since I have a hard time saying no to her, I complied, thinking maybe then I'd be able to just fall asleep and avoid the situation all together. The same conversation began to happen...As I lay praying to fall asleep, she began touching my arm. I allowed this to happen. Maybe she'd give up. This went on for maybe an hour. I got increasingly uncomfortable. I started giggling, saying it tickled. I in no way wanted to make this a sexual situation. "Can I just do this? Can I just touch your arm? Can I just touch your boobs?" She began bartering with me. All I wanted to do was go to sleep. She began talking about the appearance of my boobs and begged to JUST touch them. We didn't have to do anything else. I was exhausted and confused and high and belittled I just allowed it to happen.
This led to her touching the rest of me. I never said yes. I said no, repeatedly. But she used her power over me, and broke me down...I hate speaking so bluntly on this because it makes me extremely uncomfortable, but she performed oral sex on me and then I was penetrated with a sex toy without being asked....She knew I didn't want to, I made that clear. I didn't scream at her, I didn't force her off of me. 1, because I loved her. 2, because I just wanted it to be over."
Over the past year, allegations of sexual assault have rocked Hollywood and politics. Timothy's story reminds us that not every situation is the same. It can happen between two women. It can even happen between two best friends.
"We never talked about this night ever again. While it completely messed with my head, there was no way I could have been RAPED by my friend...right? Our friendship ended because she decided she didn't have time for me anymore. To worry about me anymore. She cared too much about, it was holding her back.
I'm not sure how to end this story. I'm terrified of the response I'm going to get. The only reason I do this now is because I'm hoping because of recent events, people will believe me. If you begin to doubt the abuse taking place in this story, I beg you to imagine her role in this being a man. Girls can rape girls. Best friends can rape best friends. Friendship does equal consent. Silence doesn't equal consent. I wish it wasn't so hard for me to convince myself of these things."
We commend Timothy for finding the courage to speak out. Melanie hasn't responded yet. Both her Twitter account and her Instagram account haven't been updated since September. It's unfortunate the "Dollhouse" singer was unable to see the problems lurking beneath their relationship. On the outside, everything must have looked perfect.