This beauty blogger's postpartum photo is beautifully honest about pregnancy
Women are truly magnificent creatures; forced to deal with periods, the patriarchy and men, you'd think they'd get a break in other regards. But no, women are responsible for furthering the human race too.
Now, while there is a select (and decidedly irritating) group of women who wax lyrical about the wonders of pregnancy and childbirth, for the majority, there is little joy to be found in hosting a human invader inside your body. I mean, just think about it: a veritable parasite literally feeds off your life force for nine months, your body swells to epic proportions, and you're forbidden from drinking alcohol and eating brie.
Despite all of this, women still face judgment for how they chose to conduct their pregnancy, and the manner in which they give birth. In particular, those who have had C-sections are denigrated for choosing the "easy way out" and their experiences of childbirth are often maligned on account of them not being wholly "natural".
This is primarily because many people fail to understand why women choose to get C-sections, and it's mainly because many do not "choose" to get them at all. Indeed, in the majority of cases, C-sections are performed on account of medical necessity. One beauty blogger, however, has had enough of this kind of talk, and has been using her platform to reveal the truth about the procedure.
Ruth Lee is a 25-year-old beauty blogger who gave birth to her daughter, Presley, back in November of 2016.
While Ruth planned on having a vaginal birth, things didn't exactly go to plan. After taking hours of birthing classes and reading countless books on natural childbirth, she had to endure a 19-hour long "traumatic labor", filled with numerous complications. Her doctors eventually decided to perform a Caesarean section which kept her in the hospital for four days.
Ruth recently took to Instagram to post a photo of her postpartum stomach, and to share an inspiring message.
"I'm posting this with tears in my eyes," Ruth wrote in the caption, explaining that pregnancy and childbirth doesn't always go the way you plan. She asserted:
"I followed SO many pregnant models during my pregnancy. And when they photographed themselves pool-side 5 minutes postpartum, I thought, "wow! I hope that happens to me!" I was 25 when I gave birth. I was healthy. I was young. I stayed active during my pregnancy. I took the best prenatals, went to the gym, used every kind of stretch mark prevention you could think of. I took hours of birthing classes, read every book under the sun, and studied natural childbirth my whole pregnancy. I STILL ended up with a traumatic labor, cesarean section, scars, stretch marks, and unfortunately the inability to breastfeed long term."
Coming to terms with her unexpected C-section has also inspired Ruth to urge women everywhere not to compare their experiences to other people's. She continued;
"I took this and actually was horrified. I couldn't believe it was me. I'm sharing it because I know in my heart that there are people out there that struggle with inadequacy. That might think they are not beautiful, that they might be ruined, less worthy, or not good enough. Yours might not actually be physical scars, but maybe, a failed relationship, a difficulty in your career, a mental struggle, money issues, or just feeling lost in life. Be kind to yourself. And know that you are not alone. Comparison is the thief of joy."
Well, Ruth is certainly an inspiration for both pregnant and postpartum women. While mass media often paints an idealized picture of pregnancy and childbirth, in reality, it's a lot more of a messy and unexpected ordeal than most people realize. However, at the end of the day - C-section or no C-section - all that matters is that you have a healthy, happy baby, and that's certainly what this beauty blogger has achieved.