Fitness model thinks she is too attractive to make friends
Life sure is hard for those who have won the genetic lottery; you know, with their killer good looks and enviable physique, they sure face a lot of problems on a daily basis. I mean, who can deal with having their friends, colleagues and family members constantly reminding them how beautiful they are? Yes, it sounds like such a tough life.
This is exactly the predicament 51-year-old fitness model, Jane Curnow, found herself in. The Sydney-based bodybuilder believes that her beauty has seriously impaired her social life, with women feeling too intimidated to hang out with her. She explained that she lost a lot of female friends in her 30's, after splitting from her husband, on account of them being "jealous" and "resentful" of her good looks.
After her divorce, Jane noticed renewed attention on her looks and confessed that she was taken aback by the "constant" attention that her appearance garnered her. She admitted that she "felt like men were undressing [her] with their eyes".
Speaking to News.com.au, Jane elaborated that while she was used to people being jealous of her, she never expected her friends to feel the same way, "Women were (and still are) jealous and resentful towards me but, at the time, I didn’t put it down to my looks and their own insecurities," she said.
Jane continued: "I’ve lost many friends and always thought it was my fault. I didn’t attribute it to my looks until my 30s, when so called friends walked out on me in bars because of the male attention I received."
It was only at the age of 32, after years of suffering, that Jane was diagnosed with depression. And after starting the process of recovery, she came to the realisation that her appearance, and all the attention that she received because of it, had contributed to her mental health problems.
"On reflection, I realised the power of my appearance, but the resulting feelings were not of pride or happiness but of incredible pressure. I asked myself; If I’m as good looking as everyone says, then why am I so unhappy? Why aren’t I living the dream?
If you don’t love yourself without the body and looks, this doesn’t change when you do. In fact, it only highlights how much you hate the person inside. You end up attaching your self-worth to the outside which is the wrong way around."
Jane is now using her experiences to empower other women to find and embrace their inner (as well as outer) beauty by working as a fitness model and lifestyle coach. She has competed in numerous bodybuilding competitions, an endeavour which she believes has "cured" her from depression.
As a lifestyle coach, Jane has also written a memoir, Finding Myself from the Outside In, in which she discusses how bodybuilding helped her overcome her mental health illness and details the process of becoming a fitness model at the age of 46.
Well, there you have it - being considered "conventionally" attractive isn't all that it's cracked up to be.