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This woman's poem about raising her trans daughter is going viral

Being a parent is a huge responsibility to take on. You will always be protective of your children and seeing them go through a testing and difficult time would be a hugely difficult thing to contend with.

For one family, who were raising a trans daughter, they found the pressure and stigma attached to a trans child too much to bear without saying anything. Taking to Twitter, the father of the child posted a poem that his wife had written, and the reception has been hugely positive.

Rather than waffling on about it, I'll let the poem do the talking.

"My heart is racing
My mouth is dry,
I bite my lip, I try not to cry
The pressure is sinking me,
My head will soon pop,
The criticism, the hate,
When will it stop

A headline, opinion, radio debate,
Another scare story, platform of hate
Day after day another attack
The mindless celebrity, the scientist quack
All spouting distortion, spitting out lies
They don’t know the facts, yet pretend to be wise
About surgery, hormones, desistance, trends
They couldn’t care less about my child and their friends

There is a durable biological underpinning to gender identity”
This isn’t a choice

But I feel so alone
I can’t find my voice

I see how you stare on the playground each day
Eyeing the dress, judging the way
That I raise my family
It couldn’t happen to you
With your conforming children
You’d know what to do
If your child cried about gender in bed every night
If your child was depressed, saw no hope in sight
If you held them as they sobbed in your arms
Asking you to love them just as they are

The hate almost breaks me, it makes me despair
So many lies, so much distortion, it is all so unfair
I’m so close to crumbling, my head is a spin
I can’t let myself sink under, can’t let them win
I feel so hopeless, so alone, fragile and weak
If no one will stand up, I need to speak
I need to find courage
It must be somewhere deep
If I don’t come up fighting
I’ll lie here and weep

But the thing is
Now
they are happy
I wish you could see
They know who they are
They just want to be
Left alone to live their life
without fears
Without pointing fingers,
and whispers and jeers

You want me to squash them,
make them feel small
Tell them there’s no space for them
in this world at all
But the world is bigger than you can know
There’s room for trans children to grow
Up into adults who will succeed and thrive
Who will be happy
Thankful to be alive

I see their spirit, their courage, their heart
They need vocal allies, me for a start
They need sturdy defenders,
stood by their side
Telling the world they are perfect,
they don’t need to hide.
So I will stick up for them,
fight the battles to come
I will find my fierce,
my strength,
be a mum."

Unsurprisingly, the response to the poem has been hugely positive, with people being quick to praise the family for their bravery in discussing their child and the difficulties she has faced.

Well done to them both for going public with their story. Putting something so sensitive into such an open environment makes you vulnerable to abuse, but by doing so, they're showing other parents that they are not alone in their experiences.