Mom left furious over tests she claims daughter was forced to do at sleepover
As kids, sleepovers are pretty much the pinnacle of entertainment. You got to stay up late watching horror movies, binge on midnight snacks that you'd smuggled from your cupboards at home, and basically spend an entire night doing anything to avoid actually getting any sleep.
Or, at least, that's what they're supposed to be like.
As with anything that kids try to do for fun, though, there's always the potential for them to get ruined by parents.
So, when one mother recently sent her seven-year-old off to a sleepover, she may have expected her daughter to moan about the parents making them go to bed early, or confiscating the TV remote at 2 am. What she certainly wasn't prepared to hear, however, was the the mother of her daughter's friend had forced her to do a number of tests.
In a post on Mumsnet, the unnamed mother posted about an incident in which her seven-year-old was allegedly forced to sit exam-style questions and belittled for her performance while she was supposed to be enjoying a sleepover with her friend.
"DD [Darling Daughter] (who is 7) was due to be spending two nights having a sleepover with her best friend, but when I spoke to her this evening she sounded unhappy and said that she wanted to come home," she explained. "So I went and got her. Best friend's mum was being a bit odd when I got there, listing all the fun things they had done and saying that dd was very tired."
So far, there's nothing much out of the ordinary. Kids back out of sleepovers all the time - usually because they miss their parents or feel uncomfortable in another person's house.
But then it took a slightly darker turn:
"When I got dd back into the car she told me that the mum had made them do spelling tests and maths questions and told her that she was stupid when she made mistakes. So as not to drip feed, although I don't think it is relevant, the spelling tests were in dd's second language - the language they use half the time at school.
"But whatever the language, AIBU [am I being unreasonable] to think that this is an appalling way to treat a visiting child? I've had to fob the mum off before when she has asked about dd's school reports, but this is much, much worse. D is really upset and thinks she is stupid and I'm not sure whether to say something?
"I've been slightly wary of this mum for a while as she seems to enter into the kids' friendships in a rather overbearing way, and I could imagine her deliberately trying to make things difficult for dd if she took against her. But ffs."
Other parents joined the thread to say what they thought of the incident, and most were in agreement that this was utterly ludicrous behaviour from the mother of the child's friend.
"That's crazy behaviour," wrote one person. "Mother sounds horrific. Distance yourself from her and have play dates for your dd's friend around at yours instead. Hope dd is ok."
Another added: "I’d be honest with your dd and tell her that the mum is strange and unkind and that she’s not suitable to look after her but her friend can still visit you if that’s what she wants. I would tolerate small talk with the mum if your children are good friends but under no circumstances would she be left in her care again."
Obviously, all parents have their own methods and routines for their kids, but this just seems like it went too far - and, honestly, I don't blame that kid for wanting to leave. I'd have done exactly the same.