These are the 10 signs you have become 'addicted' to your partner
It's hard enough trying to find a partner that's right for you, after you've spent your time in the minefield that is dating. But once you have found someone you are truly in love with, there are other challenges you have to face.
Maintaining a relationship means making sure you put in the time and effort to strengthen your bond and avoid falling into any toxic behaviour. One thing we don't tend to talk about, however, is the idea of becoming 'addicted' to your partner. If love is a drug, than that means there can be some negative effects. Born out of a good feeling, it can ultimately be destructive for you and your partner.
So how do you know if you're psychologically dependent? These experts have the answers, and have detailed the signs that can alert you to your own possible addiction.
1. You find it difficult to be happy without them
Plenty of people in committed relationships are often happiest when they're with their partner, but if you are struggling to be happy unless they're around, you may be too dependent on them.
2. You need their approval on everything
If they don't like what you're wearing, it can ruin your entire day.
3. You break your own rules about seeing them
"Longing to be together is normal in a healthy relationship," Dr. Buisman-Pijlman explains, but if you find yourself trying to spend a little less time with them but give in consistently, it may be an issue.
4. You regularly have sex at inappropriate times and places
Choosing alternative places and times to get it on with your partner is something that many couples do now and then, but not if you're doing it on the daily and it is starting to interfere with the rest of your life.
5. You can't resist seeing them, even if it doesn't make you happy
"Addiction is not about really enjoying something," Dr. Buisman-Pijlman said, "but being unable to stop something that gives some pleasures but many problems".
6. You spend all your money on them
Buying each other gifts or deciding to pay for the bill at the end of a fancy dinner will naturally happen in most relationships, but you can go too far. If you start struggling with money because of what you lend them, you should examine your behaviour.
7. You never want to be alone
Time to yourself is necessary every now and then, so you have to get used to sleeping alone and keeping your own company. It's not great if you are struggling to get to sleep without your partner being with you every night.
8. The thought of losing them consumes you
Everyone who is in love with their partner will worry about exes and whether or not their loved one will stay with them at some point, but it becomes a much bigger issue if you find yourself panicking over this on the regular.
9. They take up all your time
It's not just about socialising with friends, but if you don't have the time in the day to do your laundry or keep in touch with family.
10. You hold them to a crazy standard
Whether your partner is getting you gifts, taking you out for dates or treating you to small things whenever you see them, if you freak out when they fall short - you might be overly dependent.
While these are some interesting points, it is worth noting that some of these signs, alone, can appear as a hiccup or even a regular element of a functional relationship. Find yourself scoring high, however, and you might want to cut down on the love drug.