11 Stories from people who found love later in life
In the modern world, dating can seem like a young person's game. The likes of Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid and a host of other dating apps/websites make dating seem inaccessible to the older generation. According to research by Match, the average age that someone meets their lifelong partner is 25 - 27, so it's easy to see why people seem desperate to find love in their early 20's.
But surely it's not all doom and gloom for those in their 30's and 40's? The old saying goes that there's plenty of fish in the sea, and that there is somebody out there for everyone. While it may seem like you have left it too late to find "the one", that couldn't be further from the truth, as these stories from a Reddit thread show.
"My mom started dating a guy in the assisted living facility. She is 84. He is 90. I thought I was done dealing with middle school puppy love when my kids got out of middle school."
"I was 37 when I met my future husband. We met on a plane. It was a long flight, we talked almost the entire time. We exchanged numbers when we landed and lo and behold, five days later he was on my flight home. I didn't have any kids and he had three, so that was something I had to consider when he asked me out. I'm so glad I did because six years later, we are happily married. I think you have to keep yourself open to possibilities, more so than when you were younger."
"I was not really dating at all for 15 years after a shitty break up. Met the love of my life at 53!"
"Met online playing 'World of Warcraft', flew out to physically meet her in 2006. She moved in with me in 2008 (from Canada to the U.S.), and we got married in 2010. I was 38 at the time, she was 34. Kiddo a year later, and another one coming in two months (gulp!)."
"I was 37 and engaged to someone I'd been dating for nearly a decade when we had an epiphany that our marriage wouldn't make it. I resigned myself to start buying cats. Instead, one of my best friends stepped up and confessed that he'd been waiting for my fiancé to drop the ball. We've been married for more than a decade now, have two awesome kids (which I had at ages 38 and 41) and are crazy happy. Could I have said that had he and I married in our 20s? Unlikely. So it can definitely happen later in life. Hell, it can even be wonderful!"
"I was married in my 20s and divorced at 31. I swore that there was no way I'd ever do it again; 'fool me once versus fool me twice' kind of thing. Until I met the girl of my dreams at age 37. We've been married for years now, and we're looking forward to years more."
"At 34 I went to an old friends wedding. The brides sister was the girl who I was madly in love with in my 20's, but was always too shy to tell her. She was insanely beautiful and way out of my league. So...after a glass or two of liquid courage, I jokingly told her how in love I was with her back then. She told me she was also crazy in love with me, but was also too shy.
"She said she had pages written about me in her old diary and a photo of us together that someone had taken. Amazed, I then told I had a copy of the same photo and had absolutely treasured it all these years. We both had teary eyes, so I got down on one knee and asked her to marry me. She said yes. I kissed her for the first time right then. We moved in together the next week and were married the following year. It's been 8 years and we still hold hands when we watch TV."
"I met my husband in my mid-thirties, got married in my late-ish thirties. We've been together for 11 years, married for 9. 1 kid. I had definitely resigned myself to a solo life, and had already begun living that way. Of course, just when I got in that groove, that's when everything changed. I really think that when you stop looking, wanting, or whatever, and instead focus on the here and now and how to make it enjoyable, that's when the person shows up"
"My girlfriend is 39 and we started dating around 2 years ago. Prior to me, she had a boyfriend at 19 that passed away in an accident. There was a few attempts at dates in there over the years, but nothing ever came of it. We are engaged and just bought a house. It's been incredible. She had basically given up and assumed she would be the single lady forever."
"I'm 35. I've been left for an arranged marriage, I had a four-year relationship end because that partner cheated, and then that was followed by a very short relationship with a partner that had mental health problems. After that ended, I started going to therapy because of it all and swore off dating. I was so fucked up from those relationships I couldn't imagine trying again."
"Three months later, I met up with a guy friend for that I hadn't seen in a couple years for lunch. We made it official a week later and have been dating for eight months now, and I'm happier than I've ever been. It's always said that you find someone when you stop looking. I truly was focused on repairing myself and I found an amazing partner who I love more than I thought possible."
"Had never been married and had a damn long stretch where I didn't date at all. At 42 I met my love. Got married last year at 45. :) Do not give up. P.S. - I see that some say, "not if you're a woman". I am a woman. A lot of men love older women."
All of these stories are heartwarming and show that despite the fact we're told that we should be married with kids early in life, age is just a number. I hope that if you're past your 20's and still looking for love, these stories will give you that little bit more hope.