7 People share the cringeworthy moment their marriage proposal was rejected
The big day before THE big day is something many people dream of – your partner getting down on one knee and presenting that little tell-tale box containing a big fat sparkling diamond. And of course it happens in some kind of romantic location like, say, a park exploding with cherry blossoms with a group of puppies running around you. (Yes, I've thought it all through).
But for the person doing the proposing, the moment might feel a little more scary. The preparation beforehand only adds to the building tension of the moment you pop the question, without ever being 100 per cent sure if your loved one will say yes.
"She said no and then confessed that she had been sleeping with my brother."
2. But are we engaged engaged?
"I told him I need to talk to him about something. I made a nice dinner and asked him, 'Will you marry me?' and he said, 'Oh of course I want to marry you, you know that.' I was unsure of his answer, so I asked, 'OK, so we are gonna get married? Like we are engaged?' and he said, "I mean, some day, yes.'
"I lost sleep over it. I was so embarrassed, and he wasn't fazed. Come to find out he had no idea it was a proposal. So we sat down and talked about becoming engaged, and then boom! Engaged. Picked a date that night and started announcing to family a couple days after."
3. A happy ending, after all
"In 1988, I asked the love of my life to marry me. She said no. In a funk, I left town and went on with my life. Married another girl, had a son, years went by. My marriage was pretty bad, so after 16 years, we divorced.
"My friends convinced me to join Facebook; they said it would help meet girls and stuff. A few months into FB, I get a [private message] from the past. The love of my life had also married, had kids, and divorced. This is 25 years after my proposal and her rejection. There's a lot more to the story, but six months after that first PM on FB, we were married, and I was happy for the first time in decades. We are still going strong, with our sixth anniversary coming up in a few weeks."
4. There was just one thing not quite right...
"Proposed to Girlfriend after she got off work on a Monday with her favorite meal prepared, and the apartment all lit with candles, rose petals on the floor after having had a special weekend together. (she is shy and promised violence if proposed to in public)
"She said No no no! No! NO! when I asked her to marry me as she came in the door to our apartment.
"She worked in the medical field and had puke all over her..... She showered and said yes."
5. Third time lucky
"I asked her twice, over the course of five years. She said no twice, so I told her I wouldn't ask again. Five years later, she proposed to me in a hotel called 42 ( I'm a huge Hitchhiker's Guide fan) using an iPod (I'm a huge gadget fan). I said yes. Married for 12 years now."
6. Sounds painful
"After a Christmas vacation we were home and I asked her about marriage. 'I don't want to marry you. I never wanted to marry you. I never will marry you.' followed by a thirty minute speech about missing her single life.
"I died a little inside, honestly. Tried to make it work but I realize now I stopped trying after that. Eight months later she moves out. Three months after that she is begging me to take her back, she wants to get married, she wants to own a house. And I'm just too hurt to believe her."
7. Well, it's a better time than any to come out
"I proposed after three-ish years of dating and one year of living together, and she said no. I was offering her my great-grandparent's wedding ring. That was Friday night. By Sunday night, after a trip to her parents, she came back and told me that she was gay. That was 22 years ago."
Oh dear. Still, at least no-one lost a $3,000 engagement ring like this guy did after fumbling around and dropping it from a bridge into the pond below with a little plop. Things could always be worse, right?