An abusive husband sent his wife these cruel and invasive texts
Being in an abusive relationship is like living in an alternate reality. In that inverted world, you lose your sense of self and direction entirely, and begin to think that the unacceptable is simply routine. Krissy Kross is a victim of this abuse, and she took to Imgur to post a series of texts that her abusive husband had sent her, and to tell her story of dealing with domestic violence.
Anyone who has dealt with abuse recognizes the look of these texts, which come in absolute piles:
He monitors her relationships with co-workers, accusing her of practically cheating every moment that he doesn't know where she is, or even when he does and she's just at work.
It gets even worse, when they explicitly discuss a bruise that he put on her arm. Krissy explains:
"I visit my mother one every couple years. I had a huge bruise on my arm from where my husband had bit me, leaving visible teeth marks. The bruise was so bad it hung around for almost a month. Long enough for a visit to my mothers and to still be photographed by NCIS when I finally turned him several weeks later."
Here's Krissy's more complete explanation of the situation, which she put at the end of her Imgur post:
"I had to call him at midnight every night I was with my mother. Assuming it was because he wanted to make sure I wasn't out being drunk and doing nefarious things during the evening.
"My ex-husband was a kind, loving man. That is, until I lost weight (at 5'3" and over 200lbs, it was sort of necessary.) I then got a job. Suddenly I was cheating, I lost weight to get men, I couldn't buy clothes that fit me after the 80 pounds lost because it showed off my body. He hit me and sexually assaulted me. He waited outside my work for whole shifts, not telling me if he was carrying the Beretta M9 he had purchased recently.
"I wanted to go out with two (female) coworkers for my 23rd birthday. I told him weeks in advance and when the time came he punched me in the face and slammed my head into the floor, only leaving me alone because he had duty that evening. I tried to go to the police in the middle of the night, he tailgated me the whole way. I tried to talk to his parents and they told me it was normal in a young marriage and I should reassure him. His father is a pastor in Tennessee and holds this belief."
Just reading his texts, he sounds like such a cold and sociopathic person. It's hard to read how he beat and mistreated the woman who should have been the love of his life.
Krissy explains the end of the horrific marriage:
"I finally got the guts to leave when he hurt my dog and kitten. While he was at work I packed a bag, my pets, and their food and hid at a coworker's house and called NCIS and the police. I spent hours getting bruises photographed, giving my statement, waiting while they put him on restriction. I saw him only a handful of times after, all in court. 3 court dates to get a PO approved, the divorce hearing where he told me if I dropped the charges he'd support me financially, and the two military court dates.
"He was charged with a handful of misdemeanors and two felonies. I accepted his guilty plea bargain for 8 months in the Miramar brig on the condition that the felony charges be dropped. The judge wanted to give him 10. I still had to listen to several people testify how great of a person he was- a whole group on his side while I sat there with one friend and my lawyer."
But now, the worst is over.
"3 years later and I'm actually doing great. I have my own place, a decent job, my pets are doing very well. My credit is shit from the divorce but really, I'm in decent company in that. This isn't really a sob story; I'm really proud of what I've done on my own. I just wanted to share for possibly some closure since I never really got that. Strangers on the internet are better than keeping it inside for so long. And if you hate my story I just lose some fake points anyway. I save these text messages to remind myself how far I've come, not to cry over. I'm still terrible in relationships but..."
The best response to domestic abuse is exactly what Krissy did - find somewhere safe to stay, record evidence, and call the police. If you have no one, go right to the police station. We cannot tolerate the intolerable.