Meet the happily-married woman who gets paid to treat men like dogs and use them as ashtrays

Meet the happily-married woman who gets paid to treat men like dogs and use them as ashtrays

Could you imagine a life where you're paid to treat a rich businessman like a panting little puppy? Could you get rich quick flicking cigarette ash into his open mouth? Do you have the stones to stamp your boot-heel on a client's face? For most people, the answer would either be "no" or "how much money are we talking about?"

But for professional dominatrix Bliss Theadora, owner of a kinky dungeon in the trendy East End of London, it's just how she pays the bills. Despite the fact that she's happily-married, the model mostly makes her cash by consensually humiliating her patrons, and now she's opened up about her unorthodox career in a candid interview.

Mistress Bliss, who hails from Melbourne in Australia, first started out in her 20s as a model,  before delving into stripping, escorting, webcam work and adult films. However, she gradually came to find BDSM more and more appealing, and now charges between £200 ($257) for an hour and £1,500 ($1933) for an overnight session, and deals with a variety of quirks, such as enforced exercise, "puppy play" (treating a client like a pet) and financial domination (where she exerts control over the client's money and/or bank accounts).

Professional dominatrix Bliss Theadora. Credit: Press Association

She also makes a bit of money of the side selling worn clothes, such as heels and underwear. However, despite trading in kinky fantasy, Bliss makes it clear that she never has relations with her customers. "I enjoy taking my clients on a journey beyond the realms of day-to-day reality, diving into and exploring their fantasies and desires," Bliss stated.

"I allow people to let go of their ‘normal’ selves and indulge in their ‘true’ selves – playing with aspects of what would be considered ‘dirty, perverse, naughty,’ which is hard to do in our ‘vanilla’ world. BDSM is founded on principles of communication, consent and care, which people rarely get to experience and this is profoundly positive and mentally nourishing."

"Safety should always be somewhere in your mind – safety for yourself and your client. Whether it’s security, safety during a session, nurturing personal relationships, managing mental health, or even giving a helping hand. I have methods for vetting and screening clients in place but – like in any job – if someone is to act out, you just have to be prepared, as you can never control what everyone is going to do regardless of the context, situation or state of mind."

She also stated:

"Every day is different. In the Domme industry it all depends on whether you have clients, personal errands, personal projects or are simply taking self-care days to rest – which in this industry, is incredibly important. I can spend a full day in a dungeon or a full day in bed. Nothing is ever the same. I intend on enjoying a career as a Professional Dominatrix for probably the next 10 years."

However, since she's moved to London, I now have the time to dedicate to working on personal projects, such as trying to improve sex education in schools, and campaigning for better environments and rights for sex workers. "This is the reality and the unglamorous side of the job," she stated.

Dominatrix Bliss Theadora using a phone. Credit: Press Association

"Creating laws to protect sex workers, instead of isolating them, is the way forward. While prostitution is in itself legal, a string of laws criminalise activities around it. I like to challenge people’s perceptions that society has spoon-fed them in hopes of invoking even a little bit of change in people’s thought processes. And when this is met with anger and aggression, it only pushes me further."

Whatever your opinion on Bliss' choice of job, it's clear that she does care about the people she cares for, even if she does accept money to abuse them. I guess your perspective depends on how open-minded you are.