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Man moves abroad without telling his long-term girlfriend, then she becomes his boss

Times change, people move on, relationships end.

Though that might sound like a trio of rather depressing statements, their truth is undeniable.

In a world of transience and alteration, at one moment recognisable, the next a dizzying collocation of technological and societal advancements that leave the uninitiated blinking in bewilderment, there is scant consideration left for longevity.

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Of course, with the manner in which social media has come to dominate our culture, it is all too easy to stay abreast of what our former flames are up to, and while doing so is often an inadvisable pursuit, perhaps, very occasionally, there is an argument to be made for doing so.

We're not talking, plainly, of feverish perusal, stalker-esque by candlelight, which is creepy and more than a little odd.

Unless you have been lucky enough to remain friends with a former beau, though, there is always that faint sense of anxiety that they might crop up at any moment, unexpected and out of the blue.

For one man, the chances of this happening probably seemed particularly slim.

"I have been an expat since graduating and have been moving a lot" the anonymous individual told Ask A Manager, before going on to explain that, more than 10 years ago, he had been guilty of ghosting a girl named Sylvia, after a relatively long relationship;

"Sylvia wanted to settle down but I was not ready to commit so young. We clearly had different expectations from the relationship.

Well, I ghosted her. Over the Christmas break, while she was visiting her family, I simply moved out and left the country.

I took advantage of the fact that I accepted a job in other country and did not tell her about it. I simply wanted to avoid being untangled in a break-up drama.

Sylvia was rather emotional and became obsessed with the relationship, tracking me down, even causing various scenes with my parents and friends."

Man with forlorn expression Credit: Getty

Ten years on, and the unnamed man is a teacher at an international school. Unfortunately for him, though, that same school is getting a new Director who just so happens to be - drum roll here - Sylvia!

As he explains;

"We are getting a new director. I read the bio of the new boss and Googled her and was shocked to discover it is Sylvia.

"We have not been in touch and do not have any mutual friends anymore. I am not a big fan of social media and had no idea what she had been up to since the unpleasant situation a long time ago."

Well, anonymous man, I have a feeling you are about to find out.

"I am happy and settled here so do not want to move. To make the situation worse, the expat community here is very small and tightly knit so teachers also socialise a lot.

"I understand that this would not have happened if I did not ghost her back then, but I cannot do anything about it now."

Personally I'm not sure there's any coming back from an intercontinental ghosting, even 10 years on from the initial wounds being inflicted. Ghosters never prosper. Is that a saying?

  • Aug
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  • Christian Smith