Man posts ex-wife’s engagement photos online and his caption will break your heart
In the US, 46% of marriages end in divorce. This percentage is hardly surprising when you consider that we all know somebody who has experienced divorce in some capacity, either directly or second-hand.
When I was 12-years-old, my parents divorced. I remember it with perfect clarity, almost as if the whole ordeal took place 10 days ago rather than a decade.
As a child, it was hard to understand why my parents didn't love each other anymore, I struggled to make sense of why my dad slept on the couch for a few days and then why he left our family home. In my juvenile view, I believed that I would never recover from such a situation.
But, I did. In fact, I recovered much faster than I anticipated. This was a direct impact of the way in which my parents handled the situation. They put their differences aside to provide a seamless transition for my sister and I. Growing up, I never realized how difficult that must have been for them.
Sadly, we are all familiar with situations where divorce completely divides a family, with the children being forced to pick sides in bitter custody battles.
Thus, it was so refreshing when divorced dad, Blake Higginbotham decided to remind his friends about the commitments you make when you become a parent.
Taking to Facebook, the Texas-based dad wrote a heartfelt open letter to his ex-wife. The pair had gone through an acrimonious divorce three years earlier but chose to settle their differences for the sake of their three children.
Upon learning that his ex-wife was to remarry, Blake felt as though he needed to get something off his chest.
So he logged on to Facebook to address his friends and say some carefully-considered words about his ex-wife, whom he'd married whilst very young.
In a post, which has since garnered more than 300,000 reactions on Facebook, Blake praised his ex-wife for putting their children first during their divorce. He also mentioned his ex-wife's new partner, welcoming him to their family dynamic.
In the heartwarming post, he wrote:
"This is my ex-wife. The mother of my three children. The woman who brought all three of my children into this world. We got married young, had three beautiful children and had a bitter divorce.
Three years later, that relationship is much different. We share the kids evenly and support them in everything they do. We act as a team. The man she's with is a great guy. He's great to my kids and they love him to death. As a father, I couldn't ask for anything more. I sincerely wish you both the best. I'm thankful for many things, including y'all's relationship.
To anyone divorced, I encourage you to try and look at this from a different angle. Just because you didn't work out as husband and wife, doesn't mean you can't be Mom and Dad."
Evidently approving of this message, Blake's ex-wife added her own comment on the viral post:
Blake and his ex-wife now have a much healthier relationship. They may not have worked out as a married couple, but they certainly did not want their kids to miss out on the huge benefit of being part of a loving family. They're an excellent example of cooperation, love, and support - qualities that are essential for a happy family.
In the US, the average length of a marriage is 11 years, meaning that there is a vast number of divorces taking place in homes with young children. Whilst it's easy to lose sight of what's important during a divorce, nothing is as valuable and worth protecting as the children. The house, the car and the dog can all wait.
With this in mind, it's important to remember Higginbotham's message. It clearly resonated with thousands of people across the globe, so it may be worth sharing it with someone you know who is in the midst of a bitter divorce battle.