Meet the woman who shares her boyfriend with his husband

Meet the woman who shares her boyfriend with his husband

One of the most difficult things for a couple to go through is the battle against their own insecurities. Realising that your partner's feelings of insecurity are something to be taken seriously, while also taking into account the fact that you can't let them dictate too much of how you both act, can be tricky to get your head around.

Most of the time the subject of these arguments and frustrations tends to be related to the fear of your partner cheating or being attracted to other people, thereby getting nervous when they talk about certain workmates or friends you know to be good-looking people.

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As well as working on not letting your insecurities completely take over in this situation, you have to do the same on the other side of the equation - trying not to take it as an insult, but instead, an issue to work through. It's not something which completely goes away, but it does become more manageable once you put the work in.

So with all this in mind, it can be pretty hard for some people to imagine having a relationship with more than two people. But for some, this arrangement can work out pretty well, as this relationship proves.

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Chris, Matt and Cait are in a polyamorous relationship, often referring to themselves as being part of a "throuple". Chris Brandt and his husband Matt were together for six years before they decided to make their relationship open. While Chris had experienced heterosexual relationships in the past, Matt didn't - so he took a little convincing before he came around to the idea.

"At first Matt was completely opposed to the idea but after a while we talked about it and he warmed up to it," Chris explained. "The three of us started to spend more and more time together and after about seven or eight months she was staying over five nights a week". Now the trio live together, sharing a bed in a one bedroom apartment.

Both Cait and Chris identify as bisexual, whereas Matt identifies as something a little different. "I’m homoflexible so I like guys and I’m open, flexible to women - I prefer men," he said. "I guess I had an awakening after I had a sexual experience with a woman. It is just another body, another soul, a connection that I can have"

It hasn't always been easy, as Cait explains she found it difficult splitting her time between Chris and Matt:

"When we first got together I was struggling with the jealousy. With having a very strong connection with Chris and sometimes feeling frustrated that I would have to split time with Matt. But with a lot of that came a lot of insecurity, because I didn’t know where my place was in the relationship"

If there are any skeptics out there, it's worth knowing that this isn't a new situation to Cait, Chris or Matt. In fact, they have all been living together for two years - and have two dogs too!