There's a new dating trend called 'cushioning' for you to worry about
In a world almost wholly mandated by social media, the face of dating has shifted from what it used to be. The rise of dating apps such as Tinder and Bumble mean limited face-to-face interaction, and we're more likely to find potential partners by swiping left and right rather than in chance encounters or introductions from mutual friends.
There are both upsides and downsides to the dating game in 2017. Not only is it easier than ever to meet people, but you can also specify what exactly you want in a partner; apps such as Tinder allow you to search based on gender and age, while others allow you to search via hobbies, interests and even career paths.
The lack of consistent face-to-face interaction, however, means that it's easier to get hurt. I mean, we've all heard of the term "ghosting", and chances are we have either been ghosted or been the ghoster at one point in our dating history. "Ghosting" refers to when someone you have shared an intimate relationship with just vanishes, offering no explanation for their behaviour and leaving you to wonder what exactly you did wrong.
However, it appears that there is yet another dating trend to worry about and much like other modern-day terms such as "bread-crumbing", "breezing" and "haunting", it's got its own interesting moniker: "cushioning".
Cushioning is a new dating game that has seen something of a rise recently, and it's basically a fancy way of saying that someone's cheating on you.
It refers to when someone feels the need to have a back-up plan in case their current relationship goes south. In their fear of being alone, they create a "cushion" for themselves to fall on; they start chatting more frequently to people who are interested in them, flirt and even in some instances, hook up. All the while neglecting to tell the interested party that they're supposedly in a committed and "monogamous" relationship.
It's clear that this kind of practice is normally enacted by those who aren't really ready to be in a real relationship. As licensed psychologist and relationship expert, Dr. Jennifer Rhodes asserts "This would be what emotionally insecure people do and its not really a new phenomenon". "Quite frankly, it makes me sad that people have such trouble with emotional intimacy and talking about feeling scared with the person you are dating. You can't really fall in love unless you are ready to get hurt. Cushioning is for people who are not ready for real love," she continued.
Aside from the moral ramifications of behaving in this clearly self-destructive manner, "cushioning" prevents people from forming long-lasting attachments as they are always looking for the next best thing. At some point, you need to stop being afraid of things going wrong, and take a chance on what you already have.
In other dating related news, a new survey has revealed the person that your partner is most likely to cheat on you with.