A woman asked why a guy she rejected didn't 'try harder', and got the perfect response
As we pass the halfway point of February and the excitement of Valentine's Day dies down, let's take a moment to remember the many people who didn't have a date for Valentine's. If you're anything like me, your timeline last Wednesday was probably filled with a ton of semi-ironic memes, using humor to mask the pain of loneliness.
That's cool, though. It's definitely not easy to get into a loving, fulfilling and meaningful relationship, and even those who are actively trying for that get hurt in a number of different ways.
There's different weird and dangerous practices in dating like "love bombing", "kittenfishing" or "breadcrumbing" that I probably couldn't tell you about off the top of my head, but many people have told me are ruining dating as we know it. Again. But in any romantic relationship, the issue of consent is a major talking point, and for good reason.
Of course, over the past six months or so the issue of sexual assault has come to light in many a Hollywood circle, while the short story Cat Person went viral when posted on the New Yorker, with many men and women clashing over the literary depiction of a disappointing sexual encounter. But one woman asked the internet a question relating to a man she potentially had a romantic future with, the internet had a pretty clear idea of what went wrong.
On the website Quora, an anonymous female user had a dilemma: she'd been asked on a date by a man, but things didn't quite go to plan. “A guy asked me out today and I told him 'no', but I wanted him to try harder. Why didn’t he try again?” she asked, and although the answer might seem obvious to you or I, she was given the perfect response.
One Quora user by the name Ron Rule set the record straight, and when he puts it in those words, you can see exactly where he's coming from. Although it's natural to want somebody else to like you enough to want to fight for your affection, there's a difference between playing hard-to-get and sending unnecessary mixed signals. Put in decidedly fewer words by Ron up there.
The amusing nature of this Quora response quickly got tongues a-wagging online, and before long, other people were posting their own amusing variants of this rather interesting online query, sharing experiences of their own of similar incidents.
It all goes to show: while we're a lot better than we have been in the past at understanding consent and expressing ourselves in the right way, there's still a ways to go, especially when it's not always easy to be genuine about how we feel. Instead of putting the ones we adore though trials and tribulations, we should all try to be a little bit more to be completely honest about our romantic intentions.