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These women claim that they've had sex with ghosts

Most people on the modern dating scene have been ghosted at one time or another. You know how it goes: you're chatting away with some hot new match on Tinder, the sparks are flying and they seem taken with your witty repartee. Maybe you even end up going on a date or two. Then, all of a sudden: nothing. Dead silence. It's like they've passed onto the other side. It can be pretty eerie actually.

But for some women, the term "ghosting" has taken on a whole new meaning. Now, we're all familiar with the image of a vengeful or malicious spirit invading a woman's bedroom in the wee hours; typically the poltergeist will do nothing more than rattle furniture while groaning. But I don't think anyone, not even writers like Stephanie Meyer, who specialises in writing about erotic encounters between mortal women and the flirtatious undead, would imagine a spectre visiting a sleeping woman in order to give her an orgasm. Yes, multiple women are claiming that they have had a sexual experience with a ghost, and what's more, some of them even claim to have enjoyed it more than intercourse with a flesh and blood human being! I've heard of things going bump in the night, but never of them bumping uglies in the night.

It sounds like a hoax, yet it appears that the women who have admitted to post-life intercourse are being 100 per cent about their incredible experiences, despite the backlash their comments have received from an incredulous general public. For instance, take the case of 27-year-old spiritual guidance counsellor Amethyst Realm, who lives in Bristol, England. Amethyst appeared on British talk-show This Morning to chat about her supernatural sex life. She claims that, ever since leaving her fiancé a decade ago, she has been physically intimate with more than 20 different departed souls in Cornwall.

What's more, she claims that the sex was better than it ever was with her ex. It actually got to the point where she was forced to break off her engagement with her living partner, because of her ongoing affairs with spirits. She felt dissatisfied with her living relationship and even began wearing sexy lingerie to bed, in a bid to entice the wraiths into sleeping with her. At one point her ex apparently caught her indulging in a dalliance with the soul of a 19th-century man. Jeez, I feel sorry for that guy: imagine coming in second place to a corpse.

Amethyst spoke about her experiences in the mind-boggling interview."I guess, as I got used to it, it became more physical and I started to feel pressure on my thighs, on my arms as well as breath on the back of my neck. It always felt safe," she said, before adding that "[My fiancé] came home from work a day early and he says he saw the shape of a man through the spare room bedroom when he pulled up ... I think it was in love with me too and it wanted me to end the relationship.”

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Amethyst even went on to theorise that phantom pregnancies were the result of paranormal coitus and that ghosts have been getting it on with mortals since time immemorial. It would certainly explain the reported appearance of ectoplasm on haunted sites. For those of you who aren't up to speed with the terminology, ectoplasm is a strange, viscous fluid which is allegedly often found in places that have been visited by ghosts. The term was first coined by paranormal researcher Charles Richet, who claimed that the substance (which had a consistency similar to wallpaper paste) would excrete itself spontaneously from the bodies of mediums in a trance state. Perhaps ectoplasm has been ghostly ejaculate all along?

Amethyst isn't the only person to claim carnal knowledge of the living dead. A 26-year-old woman named Sian Jameson also claims to have sexual intercourse with the deceased; in this instance, it was the spirit of a man she saw in an old painting she found after moving into her historic 16th-century house in Wales. Sian recounted that: "A few months after I’d moved in I woke early one morning to find a dark-haired, very good-looking young man lying next to me. He was fully clothed – in a loose white shirt, a neck scarf and old-fashioned breeches. He had a kind of shimmer to him as if he was behind a fluttering voile curtain. I told myself I was dreaming and rolled away from him."

She added: "As I faced the wall I slowly realised I wasn’t asleep and, suddenly, I was frozen with fear. I felt a hand on my waist but the touch was strange – light and cool ... We started to make love. He was very gentle and stroked my body tenderly. During the lovemaking, I sensed all kinds of things about him – his name (Robert) and when he lived (over 100 years ago). We didn’t speak – it was as if he was communicating with me telepathically. His body was soft and light. Even when he moved on top of me, pressing down, he felt almost weightless. It was very strange but the sex was amazing."

At first, Sian put the experience down to a very vivid dream: too much cheese before bedtime. But apparently, the ghost started visiting her regularly. She claims that the ghost has not seen her in many years, however, and that she is now in a relationship with a living man.

Unfortunately, not all of these ghostly visitations have been consensual. In fact, at least one woman has likened her ghostly encounter to a deeply traumatic sexual assault. Back in 2014, 28-year-old Deborah Rawson claimed that she was violently attacked and sexually abused by a ghost while doing housework in her home, and then repeatedly molested by the same poltergeist while sleeping.

"I'd just finished cleaning and sat down at my kitchen table for a break when a strange feeling came over me," she described in an interview with Closer magazine, "It felt as if my chair was wobbling and the tablecloth slid to the floor, taking a plant with it. Everything went out of focus but, as I fought hard to get myself together, I saw a misty cloud floating in front of the kitchen window ... From then on I felt Mark [the ghost] wanted something from me. He would pull at my dress and one time it felt as if he had pinned me down on the sofa. Another night, as I was falling to sleep, the duvet flew off and I felt Mark's hand on my thigh."

Deborah became severely depressed and anxious as a result of her encounter. My heart goes out to Deborah, as it's clear that the incident, whether real or imagined, left her severely shaken. But as a sceptic, I find it very difficult to take these accounts seriously. For someone who's unconvinced by the existence of the ghosts period, or any form of afterlife whatsoever, I find it quite hard to believe that any ghost would have sex with a person. Isn't it more likely that these "encounters" are vivid dreams, hallucinations, or the products of delusional thinking? Surely there's another, more rational, explanation for these anecdotes?

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To find out more about the subject, I bravely elected to download the ebook Ghost Sex: The Violation, written by avowed expert G.L. Davies. This frankly bizarre text examines multiple cases of spiritual intercourse over the years, and it paints a pretty disturbing picture of the phenomenon. "Imagine if you will that your body is at the whim of an unknown and unseen visitor which will conduct an illegal intrusion upon you," Davies states. "You cannot stop it, reason with it or plead with it, or even ask for help from such tangible institutions such as the police ... no justice can be served on the entity."

Davies further adds: "No-one knows what motivates ghosts to have sex with the living. Are we like lab rats to them? One thing is for sure though, the people who experience it are certainly not dreaming. I spoke to many people – men and women – for my book and some of their stories are pretty shocking. They’re all convinced the sex actually happened and wasn’t imagined. And who am I to contradict them?"

However, despite some of the audacious claims made in Davies' book (and I would honestly recommend giving it a read just for the hell of it) I have to disagree. Delusional people will go to great lengths to justify the impossible in their own minds, and no amount of coercion or reasoning will convince them to abandon their conviction in the impossible and the bizarre. I wouldn't call the ghostbusters straight away.