Kristen Bell reveals the toxic behavior that almost destroyed her relationship
As every tabloid continues to document, celebrity relationships are tough. Not only is every move they make dissected by public scrutiny, but adoring fans feel entitled to know every mundane and minute detail about their love lives. And this is decidedly bizarre; I mean, us normal folk tend to refrain from spilling everything about our relationship to perfect strangers, and only disclose the more significant facts to our innermost circle of family and friends.
Certainly, no one likes to have their dirty laundry aired to the public.
Some celebrities, however, are incredibly outspoken about what it's like maintaining a relationship within the cult of celebrity. And one such couple is Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard. Beloved by fans, Bell and Shepard manage to toe the fine line between being super adorable yet down to earth, and they've been together for a whopping 10 years - something that is no mean feat in Hollywood.
However, no relationship is perfect, even Kristen and Dax's. During a recent interview, the Veronica Mars actress revealed that she and Dax had a lot of disputes in the first year of the relationship, some of which that even threatened to break them up.
Though the pair have been married for three years and share two children, things weren't always so peachy keen, as Kristen revealed:
"When we first met, we fell madly in love and I love the dramatic exit. There is nothing I crave more. The first year you are working out your kinks. I loved it. We'd get in a fight because we would fight a lot and I'd like yell something then slam the bedroom door, then I'd slam the front door, then I'd get in my car and then I'd skid out the driveway and I would sit around the corner in my car and it felt so good and I realized how incredibly toxic it was only after he pointed it out."
The 37-year-old went on to say that Dax eventually decided that enough was enough and set an ultimatum for their relationship:
"Three months into our relationship he was like, ‘You can't leave anymore during fights. I'm not going to do that.' I was like, ‘What?' He's like you can't do that, I'm not going to have a relationship, he has a very high standard and a strong code of ethics. He was like, ‘No, I have more respect for myself, I love you but I'm not going to do that my whole life.'"
After this, Kirsten realised that she had to make some changes, and quick. "He said, ‘Let's just help you. You are not a good fighter.' And I always thought I was because I won. 'He's like, 'No, people can't do that. Our marriage won't survive.' And everything he was saying was making so much sense and I was like damn this guy," she continued.
Well there you have it: even people who seem to be the absolute apotheosis of "couple goals" also have their fair share of problems. It just goes to show that maintaining a loving, nurturing relationship takes time, and work.