Woman who had back surgery writes an open letter to judgmental people at gyms

Woman who had back surgery writes an open letter to judgmental people at gyms

Many people are tired of being shamed at the gym. Being judged for your body, or your technique, is a major fear for people, and a barrier to working out. So when one one woman, Stephanie Lynn Holdmeyer, wrote an open letter about judging people who are working out, she struck a cord. Her Facebook post has 126,000 likes and 84,000 shares. A lot of people really enjoyed what she had to say, clearly.

After someone else said she thought she was "hot shit" for wearing weights to the gym, Stephanie penned her post. It turned out that she wore weights on her body because of recent back surgery, proving that you just can't judge a book by its cover.

"When Chris & I first started working out at the Rec, we were judged hardcore. Someone even posted on Facebook about the "buff couple" & how they "thought they're hot shit because they wear their belts all the time". This was about two months after my back surgery & I did indeed wear my lifting belt during almost all of my workouts for support.

My point is, everyone gets judged. People don't bother to understand where you're coming from or why you do the things you do.

That overweight guy? Someone judges him because of his weight, but little do they know he's already lost 100 pounds & has changed his entire life around.

That guy with the skinny legs? He's had seven knee surgeries & he's currently trying to strengthen his legs. It's just a long hard process.

That skinny girl you think "really needs to eat"? She's actually super self conscious about her thin figure & has been trying to gain weight, but her metabolism is super high.

That kid who follows you around & watches everything you do? He looks up to you and wants to learn your workouts, he's just scared to approach you.


"That girl with really bad form? She had to mentally prepare to enter the weight room because she was terrified of people judging her. She second guesses every exercise, but she's too intimidated to ask anyone for advice.

That buff dude you think is cocky? He grew up in poverty and working out was his alternative to drugs or alcohol. He's not cocky-just focused.

That woman taking too long on the equipment you want? She's a single mom exhausted from working two jobs & raising three kids. She's trying to push herself to finish her workout, but she needs a little extra rest between sets.

That old man doing strange exercises and talking too much? He decided to get a gym membership to stay active & socialize after his wife passed away last year. Talking to you makes his day & has helped his depression.

There's more to people than what you see. Instead of jumping to conclusions or making judgements, take a moment to consider someone else's perspective.

Don't judge a book by its cover."

What do you think of this open letter? Did Stephanie inspire you to go to the gym, try a few weights, and just give it a shot without caring what people think?