10 Things everyone has done that are more emotionally harmful than cheating
While cheating is never the correct course of action for anyone to take, it is one way to pretty much guarantee the end of a relationship. Although it may hurt more than anything at the time that it happens, there are plenty of other things that can be just as potent when it comes to breaking down your bond. Breakups can happen for a variety of different reasons and the majority of them start off small before developing into something much more troublesome.
Here is a list of some of the small things that can lead to the breakdown of a relationship.
1. Hiding Things
Honesty is the best policy and even if you're hiding something to protect your partner, keeping things from them can cause major trust issues that end up destroying the relationship.
2. Withholding affection
Affection means a variety of different things to people, whether it's being touchy-feely, talking about meaningful things, or helping each other through obstacles, a lack of affection can cause huge doubts in the relationship.
3. Harboring resentment
Harboring resentment is a recipe for failure in a relationship. It may start out quietly, but it eventually becomes something much bigger over time, which is what makes it so damaging.
4. Lack of communication
While you don't need to text each other all day, failure to talk to each other about things that concern you when they come up or leaving out details that you think might cause problems is never a good idea. The more you bottle things up, the bigger the eruption when they eventually spill over.
5. Being stubborn
If you like somebody, you should be willing to compromise. Partners who can only handle things when they are going their way are essentially in a relationship with themselves.
6. Bickering about mundane issues
While your arguments about cleaning the dishes and taking out the trash don't seem like a big deal now, it will become a greater issue in time and will act as ammo in more serious arguments down the road.
Talking down to someone is one way of making yourself feel bigger and more powerful than them. Power imbalances in couples only lead to arguments, which is not something that is beneficial to a lasting, healthy relationship. Not only that, but someone talking down to you damages your self-esteem so even when the relationship ends, you still feel the damage.
8. Staying in a relationship for convenience
Whether you've booked a holiday in six months time, or you know that your parents won't approve of the relationship ending, staying together because you feel like you should will only lead to resentment.
9. Staying together as you're codependent
Being together because you're afraid of being alone and don't want to be single is not a wise move. While the reality of being single will suck for a few months, it's much better than being miserable for years with someone.
Even if it's not happening, the suspicion that it's happening can be just as damaging than the actual act itself.
While cheating may seem like the worst thing that can happen in a relationship, there are a lot more factors that can come into play and lead to the demise of the relationship. All of the above shouldn't be recognizable in your relationship and if they are, you maybe need to start thinking about the direction you are going in.