9 Catfishing stories that will make you scared to ever date anyone again
Having grown up in this veritable technological age means that we're well aware of the term "catfishing". While our parents and grandparents probably think of the strange whiskered fish when they hear the word, us Millennials know that when it comes to the internet, "catfishing" refers to someone who sets up a false social media profile for deceptive purposes.
Whether you tuned into the eponymous MTV television show or have heard cautionary tales from friends, when you really take time to think about it, it quickly becomes apparent that we have all, at one point or the other, fallen victim to the phenomenon. Certainly, anyone who uses dating apps will have had a Tinder date with someone who claimed to be taller, or alleged that they were 24, but really looked closer to 44.
These nine people, however, took to Reddit to share their own personal catfishing stories, and boy do they make ours look tame in comparison...
1. This poor guy had it tough
"About 6 years ago I found out my brother was a catfish. He had been catfishing this young man in the UK whilst being in America. He had fake pictures, a fake name but his real phone number. The guy being catfished -we'll call him lenny- would repeatedly call my brother and leave messages on our house phone. My brother and Lenny often sent each other packages of sweets. Lenny made the decision to come to America to visit, since he's never been. My brother agreed. On the day lenny arrived in Texas my brother told him the truth, but never actually met up with Lenny. Lenny tried all week trying to convince my brother to meet him, telling him he just wanted to know who he really was. My brother never showed. Lenny called religiously everyday for about a month trying to get my brother back. I think he really loved him. After that I never heard from him again."
2. This kind of worked out...
"I used to be on omegle (a chat-site) a few times when I was 17 or so. Everyone asked age and sex (male/female) and most of them would disconnect when you said you were a male, so at one moment I told people I was female just to be able to talk to people.
Anyway, I connected to a girl and we had a great time together, we chatted for two hours or so I believe before we gave each other our skype adress.. I had to create mine in a quick hurry because I didn't have a fake girly-skype adress that matched my fake name.
We went on to chat almost every day just for fun and even though I knew I was lying to her by being a girl I still had some fun but I really felt guilty for lying to her, and I knew we couldn't meet in real life (even though we lived close to each other).
One day, she confessed that she was lying to me about something... That thing turned out to be that she was a guy as well. We kept contact and we had a great time together still and we actually met each other once. He died two years later though but still, good times."
3. If you want to be labelled as a crazy ex-girlfriend, do this:
"My ex-girlfriend tried catfishing me to test me. It took me about 30 seconds of looking through the profile before I realized that the name was her name backwards. The craziest thing is that she really thought it would work. That girl was bonkers.
4. Well, I don't blame him
"Not me but my older brothers best friend. He had been talking to this girl online for a really long time. He was planning on driving to Texas (we live in north Georgia) to visit her. When he told her that he was going to drive over to see her she confessed that she was actually an overweight 43 year old lady. He was 23 at the time. He doesn't like to talk about it..."
5. Sometimes the catfishing can be mutual
"It was when I was a teenager, not too long after the birth of ICQ. I had met this one person in a chat room, and things started to get more and more personal. Not too long later, they eventually broke down and admitted that they had been lying, and that they weren't a young hot girl but instead a man.
The guy seemed really remorseful, and I couldn't bring myself to tell him that I actually wasn't a young hot lesbian either."
6. This is so bizarre
"I talked to this guy, Sean, for months, probably close to a year. Then poof, gone. It sucked but oh well.
Six months later start talking to another guy with the same unusual middle name. He turns out to be Seans ex-boyfriend and about 80% of the stuff I knew about Sean was actually about him. He broke up with Sean six months before and took his phone back and thats why he dissappeared.
TL:DR Met the real-life inspiration for the persona I was catfished with."
7. How heartbreaking
"About 10 years ago I started chatting with a guy in one of the Yahoo chatrooms. We had only been chatting for a few weeks when suddenly he disappeared offline for about 2 weeks. I was so worried but then his 'sister' contacted me and told me he'd been in a terrible motorcycle accident. He was in ICU, but 'she' kept in touch with me to let me know how he was. After about a month, he got back online and we talked every day. We traded pics and eventually I got on webcam to say hi. He couldn't do the same because of some issues with his computer. We talked like this for nearly 3 years. It was around this time that I realized his 'sister' was actually him. It didn't matter though. I was besotted with him and I mean totally head over heels. Then one day he just disappeared. His profile was deleted, all his accounts were gone and I have not heard a single word from him since. I still have absolutely no idea who he/she really was and it messed up for a long time. I still think about at times. I would do anything to know the truth."
8. Er, sometimes mistakes happen
"This might be a little late, but I actually unintentionally catfished someone.
I was playing league of legends and this guy added me after we played a game. His english was broken, but i didn't think much of it and we started to duo together. we did really well, but strangely he kept referring to me as a 'she'. Again, didn't think twice about it and I just kept playing with him but eventually he started to get reaaaal creepy and told me all these things about him. we found out that there was a significant time difference between us but he would log on at the most ridiculous times for him just to play with me and started to become a 'white knight'. Whenever anyone would trash talk me, (pretty normal) he would vehemently defend me and start fights with other team members, opposing players, and whatever.
Shortly after that, he would start saying 'goodnight bb' which i thought was bye bye. so I would say 'haha goodnight bb' back to him. then he'd send me hearts like '
Eventually he started calling me his gf when he was defending me and I realized he full on thought I was a female the entire time. I messaged him after that game and was like "dude I'm a guy" and he went on a raaaaaaaaaaaampage. he started cussing me out and by the end of it, the reason why he thought I was a female, was because of my username and because i used 'proper grammar and spelling'. (just because i didn't use proper grammar here does not mean i suck at it)"
9. This story makes a case for background checks
"I had a friend back in highschool who was, told us this story a week after it happened at a graduation party.
So he had been chatting with this girl from Florida for 3 years. Decides to finally go and visit her for a week after our high-school graduation.
So he takes a plane down and she was going to pick him up at the airport. He arrives and instead is greeted by her mother who says her daughter is waiting for him back at the house. So he gets his bags and heads for the car with her. Notices a guy sitting in the backseat around his age, funny he didnt remember anything about her having a brother. he starts getting a little weirded out at this point.
They finally arrive at the house. No girl in sight. He gets angry and has the 'mother' spill the beans. Turns out this lady was using her nieces pictures to talk with him. How he didnt realize sooner I dont know. Maybe they never talked on the phone or maybe her voice sounded young. Anyways, he immediately left this lady and her son and spent the night at a hotel and had his parents pay for a plane ticket back home the next day."
Well, if that isn't enough to scare you away from the world of online dating, I don't know what is. Personally, I'm going to stick to the old-fashioned way of doing things for now.