Bride left livid after husband's best friend steals her thunder on her wedding day
How do you feel about the type of person who would publicly propose to his girlfriend during his best friend's wedding?
Well, it certainly didn't go over well with the bride, who had her special day ruined by his narcissism. The painful story is told in Slate's Dear prudence advice column:
"My husband and I started dating, got pregnant, had a child, moved in together, bought a house, and got a dog in that order. Our friends and family have asked us for years why we weren’t married yet. We always pushed it off to build better lives. We’ve done really well for ourselves and finally reached a point where we could afford a huge blowout wedding to celebrate our lives with everyone we know and love. My husband’s best friend, “John,” was the best man/officiant. The setting was beautiful, everyone seemed happy, our families were overjoyed. My mom may have used the phrase hallelujah a few dozen times."
All good, right? Until John stepped in.
"The entire atmosphere felt moving. So moving in fact that John stopped midceremony to propose to his longtime girlfriend, “Jane,” and reveal her pregnancy. I couldn’t even hear the vows my husband wrote or the rest of the ceremony over the noise of Jane’s happy sobs, her very surprised family who were also guests, and people seated nearby congratulating her. Even the videographer cut to her frequently during the ceremony, and you can’t hear anything over the chatter."
"When John gave his toast, he apologized for being caught up in the moment, and then proceeded to talk about he and Jane’s future with nary a mention of us. During the reception John and Jane became the primary focus of our guests. John even went out of his way to ask the band for a special dance for just him and Jane on the dance floor. I’ve never been an attention hog, and I wouldn’t even have minded if he’d proposed after the ceremony, but weeks later I am still seething. I am so shocked and angry that I keep asking myself if this is real life. My husband hasn’t spoken to John since the wedding, and our mutual friends think what he did was rude but that my husband should just get over it. My husband has joked that he’ll resume his friendship when John and Jane give him a $40,000 check for “their half of the wedding.” Do you think John’s behavior warrants the end of a long-term friendship, or are we angry over nothing?"
Virtually everybody took the bride and groom's side, condemning John as an attention hog and an unrepentant narcissist. Of course, he is.
Why would you ever loudly propose at someone else's wedding and then give a long speech about yourself and your new fiancee? Why do you need so much attention at someone else's wedding? Why do you need to propose publicly period? No one cares. Go pay for your own wedding. Narcissists are just the worst.