It all goes wrong for man who publicly shamed his fiancé on Facebook for cheating on him
Finding out you're being cheated on by your significant other sucks. And for people who've caught out their unfaithful partners, some choose to publicly out them online. This presumably gives them a unique feeling of revenge mixed with catharsis in return.
But is it really the right thing to do?
Yes, cheating is terrible, and yes, you'll feel extremely betrayed by someone and want to wish all sorts of horrible things upon them. But maaaybe there are some things that you should just keep offline. Especially if you don't know all the facts.
One man shared a story about how he publicly shamed his (now ex-) fiancé because he thought she was cheating on him. The man took to Reddit to talk about the ordeal:
"I went away for a friend's bachelor party. We went to Nevada. My fiancee and I have been together for 2.5 years and our wedding is in 6 months. She told me her cousin Stacey was coming down for a week while I was gone."
Fine, all sounds good and dandy. He's going away for some rambunctious fun in the desert with his mates, and his fiancé can spend some quality time with her cousin in the meantime.
"So while I was in Nevada another friend of mine texts me that he had seen my girlfriend out with this guy. He figured she was probably a friend or something but this friend lives up the street from us and he said there was truck parked in my driveway. The next night he saw her go in with this guy and the guy stayed all night."
Hmm. Something's fishy here, and it was enough to make the guy rightfully suspicious. But also, why does he have such a nosy friend?
"I told my girlfriend that we had decided to stay in Nevada for an extra two days but I went back early and I followed her and this guy to see for myself. She even told me on the phone she was with her cousin and didn't mention the guy at all."
Next thing he does is upload all the photos to Facebook, as you do to sort out your personal issues.
"I took all the pictures my friend had taken after I asked him to and the ones I took and posted them on Facebook with her tagged and a message about her openly running around with this guy and him spending a bunch of nights at our house while I was away and how she was a liar and a cheat."
Ouch. How's that for a public shaming. It would be all well and victorious... if it wasn't for the fact that maybe she wasn't cheating on him, and that maybe he should've confronted her with his suspicions privately first. Here's the twist:
"The guy was her cousin Stacey. F**king everyone jumped all over me right after I posted. Stacey is a girl's name and I had no damn idea. Apparently I met him at some wedding before. She moved out and her sister who is a cop dropped the ring off."
Better pay more attention at those family events, buddy.