Man employed by woman he 'ghosted' reveals what it was like when he started work

Man employed by woman he 'ghosted' reveals what it was like when he started work

Do you remember the story of the man who had "ghosted" a woman after a three-year relationship and then had somehow managed to get himself employed by that same woman a few years down the line? If not, it's completely insane.

The unnamed man found online fame after he wrote to Alison Green, the woman behind the popular advice blog Ask A Manager, to explain the strange situation that he had got himself into.

The man had been in a relationship with a woman called Sylvia many years ago, and all seemed rosy. However, he also suffered from commitment fears, and so eventually ended up packing up his belongings and getting a job in a new country - all without saying a word to his girlfriend. After that, they never spoke again.

Fast-forward a few years, and in a bizarre twist of fate, Sylvia is set to become the man's boss. After his manager had to leave due to a family incident, the school that this man is working at hired a new manager, which turned out to be Sylvia. Obviously, the man completely panicked and he turned to Alison for advice, of which she gave him plenty.


"Contact Sylvia ahead of time to let her know you work there so that she's not blindsided by it on her first day."

"I don't know that you can salvage this!" the agony aunt added.

"It's not reasonable to ask Sylvia to manage someone who she has this history with."

The first letter garnered plenty of attention online, with the majority of the comments being negative towards the man and his actions. However, despite the subsequent abuse aimed at him, he promised to provide an update on the situation, and has stayed true to his word.

In his update, the man explains that he called Sylvia and the HR department to talk about the issue, and he received an email asking him to meet with the chair of the board before term starts.

Despite the chair having reservations regarding the history of the pair, he decided that personal relationships cannot be seen as a sackable offence, and that the pair would have to learn to work together. But it wasn't all that simple, the post goes on to say.

"I met with him [the chair of the board], together with Sylvia, the same day. As you can imagine, this meeting was incredibly embarrassing for me, personally and professionally. Fortunately, unlike some of your readers hope, they did not think the past failed relationship was a sackable offence. At the end, there is not that much interaction between the director and employees on daily basis.

"The chair was more worried about possible gossip and related implications for the organisation. Ours is an expensive enterprise, this is a conservative place and nobody wants any scandal. At the same time, they considered it was necessary – as they framed it – to put some measures in place to avoid possible problems in the future. I was also told in no uncertain terms that although the schedule for the year was already set, it was far more difficult to replace the director than an employee (me)."

"I do not want to go into too much details but I found the proposed measures rather excessive. It would make my position unattainable, even in a short run. Therefore I resigned on the spot. My resignation was later accepted."

The man believes he finally got his comeuppance for his awful behaviour a few years ago and has now had to move back in with his parents while he looks for his job. Well, they do say that Karma is a b***h!