Men and women believe that this is the 'ideal number' of sexual partners

Men and women believe that this is the 'ideal number' of sexual partners

It's always a question that comes up at the start of your relationship, and can often lead to quite a prickly and jealousy-ridden conversation. How many people have you slept with? For those of you who have only slept with one or two people, you may feel a little inferior answering that question. While for those who are in the 50+ bracket, it's hard not to feel like you're being judged for your persistent sexual activity. However, thanks to Illicit Encounters, a dating website for people who are married, we can now reveal what men and women consider to be the perfect number of sexual partners.

So, how many do you reckon? How many sexual partners do you think is the ideal before you settle down for a lifetime of sex with one person? Would you rather your partner had slept with plenty of people in the build up to you? Or would you rather they had kept themselves "pure", waiting for the perfect person (you), to sexually enlighten them? Well, the survey has revealed that the ideal number is 12. Seems quite low, right?

Those who were surveyed (who were cheating on their spouses, by the way), said that the figure 12 was perfect as it showed that the individual in question was “sexually adventurous, liberal and transient.” The cheaters who were quizzed about this information, said that those who had fewer than 10 partners are "too conservative" and that they are "sexually inexperienced".

However, the participants also weren't a fan of those who had slept with a larger number, with the results saying "anything above 19 partners is a red flag, as they would consider the person to be ‘too selfish’, ‘difficult to please’ or ‘too eager to jump from partner to partner.'"

Surprisingly, while it appears to come up in question a lot, only 45 per cent of women said they would actually want to know how many people their partner had slept with, while 53 per cent of men said that they would want to know the answer to that question.

Christian Grant, a spokesman for, said:  "Men are a little more self-conscious when it comes to competition.

"They want to be seen as the biggest and best; whether that stems from genuinely wanting to satisfy their partner or to massage their own ego is another matter entirely.

"Women on the other hand, they're just happy to enjoy the moment, past experiences aside."

So there you have it, make with that information what you will. If you're thinking of cheating on your spouse (which you shouldn't be), now you know what the "ideal" number of former lovers is. Or, if you're new to a relationship, you can now round your tally up or down depending on your realistic score.

Although, why does it really matter? Your tally is just a number. What really matters is if you're any good in the sack or not. If you want tips on how to perform better, why not check out what men and women don't like in the bed, at least you'll know what to avoid.