Research reveals how much sex you need to have weekly to stay healthy and happy
I could tell you that birds do it, bees do it; even educated fleas do it. I could also tell you that you and I are little more than mammals, and a result, we have no choice but to do it in a similar fashion to the animals featured on the Discovery Channel.
There are a lot of songs about getting some; some good, some bad, some so atrocious they come full circle and become good, but songs about sex aren't exactly in short supply. I'm probably going to shuffle at least three more on my Spotify playlist before the end of the day, but how often should we experiencing Marvin Gaye's interpretation of lovemaking, in comparison to the real thing?
By now, you've probably heard how having a healthy sex life is vital to your general well-being, with mooted benefits such as lower blood pressure or higher cardiovascular prosperity, with plenty of mental and emotional perks to boot. What these studies often fail to discuss, though, is how exactly we define a "healthy" sex life.
You probably aren't surprised to learn that a healthy sex life means partaking in the no-pants dance fairly regularly, but you might be shocked to learn that too far in the other direction isn't exactly great for you either. So where's the sweet spot when it comes to the frequency with which we should get hot and heavy with our desired partner?
To answer that most pressing question, researchers at Toronto University in Mississauga took data from over 30,000 people over three studies in order to work out the correlation between feeling good in the downstairs area and feeling good pretty much everywhere else, looking at people in relationships as well as single people.
Amy Muise, one of the study's authors, put paid to the idea that every one of our waking moments with our partners should be spent performing interpretive dance for a Prince song. Far from it.
"In general it is important to maintain a sexual connection with a romantic partner, but it is also important to have realistic expectations for one’s sex life, given that many couples are busy with work and responsibilities.
"Our research suggests that engaging in regular sex is associated with happiness, but it is not necessary, on average, for couples to aim to engage in sex as frequently as possible."
According to Muise and the rest of the researchers, the relationship between frequency and well-being is only linear to a point; if you're doing it any more frequently than once a week, then you're not going to feel any better for it. It's important to note, though, that the data reflects this mostly for people in relationships.
So there we go, couples around the world. Sometimes when you're in a relationship, it can be difficult to keep your hands off one another. On the other side of that, though, when you're not doing it all the time, it can sometimes feel as if the spark has gone.
In which case, I hope this new information has helped you out; after all, if you're not spending as much time having sex as you were before, maybe that means you're enjoying your significant other's company as a person, and that can't be a bad thing, can it?