Woman finds her cheating husband's messages to his mistress
After giving birth, Betsy Ayala found that her husband began cheating on her, accusing her of putting on too much weight, and calling her a "fat f**k" and a "cow" in text messages to his mistress, behind his wife's back. Abysmal, right?
Well, now Ayala has lost well over a hundred pounds, and divorced her husband. Looks like she beat him hands-down.
"Now I honestly feel that what he did was a blessing because otherwise I would have been the way I was forever. I prayed all the time for my life to change and my prayers were answered just maybe not in the way I envisioned but I got a second shot at a fresh start and I'm grateful for that. It's changed everything in my life. I would cry after every workout and it was then that I decided that this wouldn't not define me and I was going to change for me and for my daughter. I wanted her to be proud of her mum and I wanted to be an example for her."
"I had pretty much had weight issues my whole life. I was always the chubby kid, I never played sports or wanted to take in physical activity because I was overweight. I did get bullied in school and got picked on. I think for me eating was like self-medication. I have anxiety and instead of dealing with the real source of my anxiety I would eat and then that would become the source of my anxiety and I would eat some more and it was just a vicious cycle.
"After I had my daughter I was the heaviest I had ever been. My 14 year relationship was very strained and I was in a very severe postpartum depression and anxiety. I couldn't sleep and I had no desire to function at all but I had a newborn so it was a very difficult time."
She lost 60 pounds in four months, and burned off more of the weight after uncovering her husband's affair.
"I started having more energy and losing weight, even though that wasn't really my intention at the time and slowly started to get better. I started in September and was doing okay until two days after Christmas, when I found out my husband was cheating on me with a co-worker. I had been with him since I was 17 and pretty much devoted my life to our relationship and him."
"I was devastated. I found out through some messages I read on his Facebook where they were calling me a cow and a fat f**k and just trashing me and my whole world fell apart. He would always tell me I looked fine or would try to get me to eat junk all the time which is why I was so devastated when I read those messages because it was almost like he enabled me or wanted me to stay that way."
Looking back on that time, Ayala has come a long way:
"I was always very negative and had a chip on my shoulder because I was unhappy with me. I'm happier, I'm confident and most of all I'm positive. I know that I'm capable of so much and I'm so happy to set a good example for my daughter which is extremely important for me."
And she's even forgiven her unfaithful ex:
"My ex-husband and I are actually good now. It took me a while to get to that place of forgiveness but what he did was about him and not me. My journey has really helped me understand that."
Good for Ayala.
Although, I must add a final PSA here: in no way does someone calling you fat mean you have to lose 100 pounds in some miracle transformation. Ayala felt that was the best way to regain her self-confidence, but if you're confident with your size, don't feel like you have to become a Zumba fanatic overnight.