Women ask out their crushes on social media and get rejected badly
Dami Olonisakin, a relationships blogger, started a major chain wave when she encouraged women that followed her on Twitter to simply ask out their crush. Olonisakin explained:
"So I started it, because I wanted to show women it’s OK to make the first move. It’s very possible for men to be shy, so showing an interest can go a very long way.
I think the responses have been good. It seems as though, it’s made a lot more women confident when it comes to talking to the opposite sex.
As for the brutal ones, i don’t see it as huge deal! It’s just shows you the worst someone can say is ‘no’ .. and if that does turn out to be the case, don’t let it discourage you.. instead move on swiftly. At least you know!"
So, what about the 'brutal ones'? Well, that's what we're here for.
"The purpose of challenges like this is to help women take dating into their own hands instead of waiting around. Doing it on a public platform such as twitter also helps boost the confidence of other men or women to ‘shoot their shot’."
So, who ended up being hurt publicly by their crushes? Well, it turns out that women are 2.5 times more likely to get a response and a conversation out of a first text than men. So many women received positive responses, but others were not so likely. They seem to have bet on the wrong crush.
This next guy was utterly abysmal:
"I wanted your friend." I mean, seriously? So the next:
Ow, instantly blocked? That's pretty cruel treatment. And these women are all posting it publicly! So maybe getting over a sense of public shame or embarrassment? Maybe a very good psychological healing tool.
Date a dude getting married in Lagos? Why not give it a chance.
Some people just stick their heads out of their cave to spit venom.
Of course, it wasn't all bad. Ultimately, many people posted responses that went in their favor, with women choosing to reach out and getting what they were looking for.
It's a gamble that can go either way, so don't be afraid to reach out and get the disappointment/joy over with. Better to settle something than to have a cloud floating over your head. At least, take solace in the fact that you don't need to post it publicly. The sting of rejection or a pleasant surprise, you can keep it to yourself.
If you're in need of a more heartwarming story after seeing so much rejection, read this about a 98-year-old mother moving in to take care of her 80-year-old son. That's right - they're both extremely old now, so it's the same situation as when he was a baby. What a cycle of life to follow, right?
Anyway, if you want to ask out your crush in the future, don't do it on Twitter. That can probably help with at least a few things, including medium and approach.