Woman takes selfies with her catcallers to point out how stupid they really are
Gathered heterosexual gentlemen of the Western world, I'm not here to tell you how to find the love of your live. Be it Tinder, a night out clubbing or a formerly platonic friendship turned romantic, life is hard enough without putting arbitrary boundaries on yourself.
That being said, I've seen some pretty outrageous methods that men have adopted for picking up women in my time. One time, while waiting for an Uber, I saw a man approach a woman at a bus stop at three in the morning. Not only did she not immediately pepper spray him, she actually seemed pretty into it. I'm sure they're happily married now.
All the same, when we look back at our wedding photos decades from now and our children ask us how we met their mother, there's absolutely no chance we'll adopt our Ted Mosby persona and say: "well, kids. I saw your mother on the street and I yelled something sexually suggestive at her. It was love at first sight. I was wearing construction gear."
Never in the history of man has catcalling come even remotely close to working. Yet still, men all over the world persist in the hope that one of the women they shout bad innuendo at will turn around and go: "I've been waiting for someone to treat me like a piece of meat all of my life. Kiss me, you fool." So why do men do it? And how do we get them to stop?
If you want the answer to that first question, you're probably better off asking an attachment therapist or an anthropologist, but for that second question, this technique adopted by Noa Jansma might be pretty effective for deterring catcallers both now and in the future.
Rather than expressing her disgust or walking off in a hurry, this 20-year-old does something entirely different: she stops in her tracks, and immediately takes a selfie with her catcaller.
After being filmed and harassed on a train by two creepy guys, Noa set up the @dearcatcallers Instagram page, where she takes a selfie with every guy. Every single guy. And there's a lot of them.
Like, a lot.
"It's not a compliment," she says in her first Instagram post, on a page now on the cusp of 50,000 followers.
"This Instagram has the aim to create awareness about the objectification of women in daily life. Since many peop[le still don’t know how often and in whatever context 'catcalling' happens, I’ll be showing my catcallers within the period of one month.
By making the selfie, both the objectification and the object are assembled in one composition. Myself, as the object, standing in front of the catcallers represents the reversed power ratio which is caused by this project."
It's part of a month-long project by Noa that's since ended, but she notes that "it doesn’t mean that catcallers are in the past as well". Now, I'm sure that it's tempting to say that "not all men" are as callous and audacious as the men in these posts, but for me, the lack of shame in each of these guys' faces is really worrying.
Guys, it's not always easy to approach a pretty girl, but they're more than objects, and it's extremely important that we treat our women with the respect they deserve as fellow human beings.