13 wedding guests reveal the moment they knew the marriage was doomed
The way we all view marriage has changed drastically over the years. What was once an absolutely essential tradition is now purely optional for this generation, and while divorce was once seen as a shameful thing to do, now it is fairly commonplace.
Regardless if divorce is in the future for a relationship, the wedding tends to be a spectacular event, a display of love, loyalty and dedication. Or at least, that's what we'd like to think. As these various Redditors have attested, there have been bad omens they have seen at weddings that they believe has spelt doom from the outset.
1. Unfortunate footwear
"The groom was wearing a pair of old running shoes. (For the record, he wasn't poor.) Everyone else including his groomsmen and best man were wearing dress shoes. My dad leans over to me and says, 'What kind of a man wears running shoes to a black tie wedding?'
"The groom ran alright, about a month later when he suddenly decided he didn't want to be tied down. Packed up to travel the world, alone. Fortunately, my cousin found a decent guy after that whole mess. Been happily married 10 years this month. If a man's not committed enough to dress appropriately at his own wedding, he's probably not committed to the relationship."
2. A little biased
"The bride choose what pictures to display. There were a bunch of pictures of her and none of the groom."
3. A sign of things to come
"I'm a Wedding DJ. I was given a request by the bride maybe an hour into what was scheduled to be a three-hour dance. Normally when I get a request from either the bride or groom, I will ask them 'Do you want that now, or at some point later?' especially if the song is not in the genre that I am playing in right now.
"She told me that she wanted it now, so I queued it up on the deck that wasn't playing the current song. She walked away happy, expecting that her song would be next. Immediately after she left my table the groom walks up to me and asks me what she requested. I show him, he half-laughs and tells me not to play it. Conflicted and surprised, I ask him 'why not?,' to which he replies 'she's an idiot, that song sucks.'
"If you respond like that to a single song in a three hour dance, then there's no way that you are going to respond well to something more serious when it comes up in the future. Among DJs, we call people like this 'repeat customers.'"
4. Place your bets!
"The groom looked drunk and the bride seemed incredibly angry. Then there was this woman walking around during the reception placing bets on when they would divorce. I later found out she was the mother of the groom."
5. The ultimate awkward moment
"Groom's mistress found out he was getting married and showed up at the wedding, in the middle of the I-do's, walked right up on stage and smacked him in the face."
6. The worst speech
"The groom said in his speech, 'When I joined a dating agency I never thought I'd be so lucky as to find my own personal cook, dishwasher, and washing machine. Not only is that a sh---- way to describe ANYONE, he's in for a nasty surprise when he realizes his wife is actually a complete diva and will expect him to do all those things for her! Bad relationship all round."
7. Something's not right here
"She flinched when he turned to kiss her. They were divorced within six months."
8. Joking or not?
"My cousin (the bride) told us, as she was going from table to table thanking the guests, that she didn't think it would last. We were stunned. They lasted about a year."
9. A bad omen
"The bride had the minister put 'Til death, or divorce, do us part' into the ceremony."
10. A terrible ending to the night
"Groom got so drunk at the reception he passed out in the honeymoon suite by himself, but not before he latched the door so it couldn't be unlocked from the outside. Seeing the bride kicking the door and hollering at the top of her lungs to be let in at 3 a.m. was not encouraging. They divorced like two years later."
11. No lies were told
"Her vows. They were friends of mine who dated for nearly two years before their wedding. He loved her more than she loved him, obvious to all our friends, and we suspected she begrudgingly said yes to his proposal.
"He said his vows first and went on and on about loving her for the rest of his life. During hers, she started with '438 days ... that's how long I've loved you.' It seemed sweet until she ended her vows with, 'And I promise to love you for at least 438 more.' Most thought nothing of it and some friends called me a dick for saying it was a subconscious sign she wasn't in it for the long haul.
"She left him exactly that amount of days after the wedding with a note that said 'I kept my vow to love you for 438 days more, but I can't for a single day more.' "Called it."
12. A little bit much
"It was super cheesy and had all the cheesy trappings of 'romance. "Gushing vows, a horse-drawn carriage. The bride wore a crown and exclaimed non-stop she was a 'princess!!!' Reception included a narrated 30-minute slideshow of the couple. It was ridiculous and nauseating."
13. A twist you'd never expect
"Bride refused to kiss the groom no matter what and would reluctantly hold hands with him in front of people and photos. As soon as people's backs are turned, she yanks her hand off. They divorced a month later. Bride then remarried within a few months.
"Turns out it was an arranged marriage the moms forced on them. The groom and bride never really liked each other, but went through with the wedding anyways. The bride was already in another relationship behind the groom's back long before the wedding.
"I was the groom."
Weddings aren't always going to run perfectly, but even those of you have seen a few awkward or tense moments at a wedding likely haven't seen omens as clear as those shared above. Next time I'm invited to a wedding I will be sure to check whether the groom is wearing sneakers.