1. An orgasm
We'll start at the end, shall we? The end goal of sex is to have an orgasm. While it can be fun without one, an orgasm is what we're all here for. So, understandably men would like to blow their load during the lovemaking session. Think about it in simple terms: You wouldn't order a Domino's unless you wanted to have a pizza, so why bang without getting the end result?
2. Get into it
Sex is a two-way-street and both of you should both be getting something out of it. Seeing as it's meant to be enjoyable for both partners, don't just lie there like an ironing board. Give it a bit of "Oomph" for god's sake! There's nothing more demoralising than getting down and dirty with someone while they just lie there looking disinterested. And if that is your method of banging, expect your partner to become best friends with their hands sooner rather than later.
3. Crank up the volume
One clear way to understand if your partner is getting some enjoyment out of what is going on between the sheets, is how much noise they are making. While no one is asking you to channel your inner Tina Turner, a bit of noise doesn't go unnoticed in the sack. Your vocal cords allow your S/O to understand if they're doing the right thing or not, so it's pretty important. Besides, who wants to bang in complete silence? That's just way too weird.
4. Foreplay
Think of sex as a roller coaster for one minute. The best part of a roller coaster is the ascent before the drop. You know the bit I'm talking about; your carriage slowly climbs up to the top of the slope, the tensions builds in your body as you anticipate the exhilarating conclusion that you are about to experience, and then suddenly it drops. Foreplay is the ascent. It's a key component in sex and helps build up the anticipation before you finally get down to the full monty.
5. Lumos! (turn the lights on)
Get those bloody lights on! While sex is also about the physical feelings of enjoyment, it's also meant to be a visual experience. If you're partner is attracted to you, it's likely that they will want to watch you enjoy yourself due to their actions. Not only will it make them feel good about their performance, but it takes away the risks of smacking heads and body parts that can occur in the dark.
6. Talk dirty to me
Conversation is key during sex. I'm not talking about a "hello, how was your day?" sort of chat. More along the lines of telling each other how good they feel etc. If you're on the receiving end of the bang, let them know that they're doing well (don't literally say "you're doing well", be a bit more risque). If you're more of a giver, ask them if it feels good, although you do run the risk of them saying "no".
7. Communication
Communication is different to conversation. Conversation is more about dirty talk and making each other's egos inflate a bit. Communication is more about making sure you're getting what you want from the act. If you want them to go down, signal it. You're meant to enjoy sex just as much as your partner, so don't be afraid to ask for what you want or to try new things.
8. The spice of life
No, I'm not talking about paprika. Although the orange powder is brilliant in terms of forming the basis of the majority of all enjoyable meals. I am, of course, talking about variety. Much like it's edible counterpart, variety forms a solid basing for you life in the bed (rather than the plate). If you feel like you're getting bored of your lovemaking, try something new. Doing the same thing everyday is monotonous and if there's one thing sex isn't meant to be, it's boring.
9. Teamwork makes the dream work
As mentioned earlier, sex involves two people (or more, I see you kinky little devils!) uniting and smashing their bodies together until it feels good. It's a team effort, and as much as you want to get your fill of the good times, you're also there to fulfil the needs of your partner. If they're tiring from being on top for too long, switch the position. If they've come home from a long day's work and have no energy, take control. It's not just take, take, take - sometimes you have to give, give, give.
10. A rest
Sleeping after sex is the best. Simple.
Well there you go: 10 simple things you can do to make sex more enjoyable. While these tips were shared by men, they can be applied to all forms of relationship. Now go out there and enjoy yourselves!
