Since the dawn of humankind, men have found it difficult to read
. As such, whether they're aware of it or not, they have undoubtedly driven countless females away thanks to some bad behaviours which have been made into habits. Now, whether this is due to the overuse of childlike banter, or something more serious like getting overly aggressive, one thing is for sure, changing your ways is never easy. However, it's something that can be done, and moreover, it's something that
must
be done if you notice that you just can't seem to get a woman to stick around. I mean, chances are, there's a reason
why
they keep choosing to leave.
Thankfully, the women of Reddit have come together to school
on the behaviours that they find incredibly off-putting, and guys, there are some truly valuable insights in here which you should seek to address, if you haven't already. Have a gander below...
1. Being aggressive when it comes to sex
"Trying to be suggestive or overly sexual way too soon. Trying to ask me what I like sexually when I've known you for 45 minutes or assuming I'd like all the things you're explicitly stating that you'd do when it's our second or third time meeting creates so much second hand embarrassment it makes me want to vomit."
2. Comparing her to another woman
"Comparing me to other girls constantly. It's seriously not what I signed up for, dude."
3. Or rather, putting down the entire female gender
"I called my boyfriend out for this the other day. It was well intended, as these compliments usually are... But you shouldn't have to put down the entirety of my gender to pay me a compliment. Positive comments are so much better anyway. Instead of saying, "Other girls suck but you don't" you could use that chance to say "You are special to me because X" or even just "I really like X about you." That way the person you are paying the compliment to comes away knowing specific qualities that you admire about them, not just that you have been comparing them to other people. It feels shitty to be compared to other people no matter who you are, and that's the opposite of what a compliment should do."
4. Making everything into a competition
"It really sucks when it turns into a competition of achievements. Your interest is cool but I ONCE DID A THING LIKE THAT BUT BETTER. Oh, you like to read? I AM A POET AND ALSO READ ALL THE TIME but I haven't heard of that book, I am too CLASSIC."
"Men who say all their exes are "bitches" or "crazy". I'm not saying there aren't s***ty people out there, of course there are. And we've all dated one or five in our lifetimes. But if all the women you've ever been in a relationship with are the worst, maybe you are the problem, buddy."
6. Brazenly soliciting nudes
"Asking me for nudes or trying to send me nudes. I do not want to see your penis, it will not turn me on."
7. Only paying attention to women you find attractive
"Guys who treat women they don't find attractive like shit. You may be the hottest mf in here, but if you think you're too good to say thank you to the girl who just helped you with something or manage a few sentences of small talk to the person you just met, don't let the door hit you on your way out."
8. Depending way too much on alcohol and drugs
"Not being able to have a good time without being drunk and/or high."
9. Chronically interrupting
"Interrupting. I'll let it slide 3 times. Then I'll just tune out the rest of the conversation and excuse myself when I can."
10. Bragging about your conquests
