Being 'boring' with your partner is the key to a long relationship, expert says

Being 'boring' with your partner is the key to a long relationship, expert says

An expert has claimed that being "boring" with your partner is the key to a long term relationship.

Now, I have to agree. While fancy dates are all well and good during the honeymoon period, at the end of the day, you want to spend your time with someone who you can sit in comfortable silence with, someone who appreciates a quiet coffee date and Netflix, even without the chill.

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This is backed up by an expert too. Namely, Mark Manson, the author of The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F***. He said that if a relationship is going to stand the test of time then it needs to be "as boring as possible".

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He told Business Insider: "That sounds really weird to people but if you think about it, a really happy 80-year-old couple that's been together for 60 years, the reason that they've been together for 60 years, it isn't because they took all these private jets and they had their crazy vacations and 'Oh my God, look at their pictures'.

"It's because they were able to be boring together. They are able to spend year after year, sitting around the house, talking about the same boring stuff, watching TV, watching movies, cooking dinner, and it went fine.

"There was nothing exciting, there's nothing blowing up, there's no huge drama and dishes flying."

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The relationship expert explained that while social media with its endless pictures of exciting and fun things to do might discourage us from being boring, we shouldn't let it, as people who are outwardly exciting and interesting, more often than not, are a '"really horrible person to be with romantically".

Because of this Manson said we need to make it socially acceptable for it to be boring again, which may be no bad thing if our love lives thrive as a result.