Flirting - everybody does it. Some people are naturals at it, smooth-talking their way to countless hearts, but, for a lot of people, it is an awkward and embarrassing experience.
In the age of dating apps and websites, being good at flirting is an almost vital skill to possesses if you want to stand any chance of success. However, it isn't just corny pickup lines people are struggling with. Bisexual Twitter user, @gilltheamazon, took to the site to express her frustration about never knowing whether or not a girl is picking up what she's putting down. She says that a girl trying to flirt with another girl is near impossible because girls are complimentary to each other by nature. In her tweet, she wrote:
"As a bisexual woman, I still cannot tell if another woman is flirting with me or just being nice, on that same note I have no idea how to convey to a woman I’m not just being nice, I’m flirting with you. Like yes I think you’re pretty and your shoes are hot but also kiss me? [sic]"
This issue seems to be shared by a number of users, who have come together to reassure her that she is not alone in her struggles, and to lend some advice:
A lot of users seem to think it is all in the eyes. Long, sustained eye contact is supposedly the tell-tale sign that the person you're flirting with is into it. But some Twitter users do not agree with this approach, arguing: "I make forward eye contact with everyone. It's a problem I have. Men think I'm flirting, I have no idea what women think." So what is the truth!? Many users replied to the ] tweet advising her to be more forward in her flirting:
However, the disgruntled Twitter user did not seem too keen on this approach, saying: "That is way too forward! I don’t know how I would feel about a stranger telling me something like that!"
She went on to clarify her original tweet and the reasoning behind her confusion, writing: "I will literally only say this once more: women are confused because it is our CULTURE to compliment each other in bars, at parties literally everywhere. We are KIND to each other. Men don’t compliment my earrings just for funzies. This tweet was not for men to claim. Bye. [sic]"
Her claim that this is an issue that only women who date women face got some backlash from men online, who responded: "Dudes can still relate. Does the girl actually like me or is she just being friendly?" Another replied to her remark that men don't compliment a woman's earrings just to be kind, saying: "If I see a good pair of earrings I’m saying something about it boss [sic]."
So there you have it, people. Next time you're flirting and unsure about whether or not the person you're flirting with is into it or not, it's apparently all in the eyes.