While Millennials are saying "no" to tying the knot in record-breaking numbers, the idea of marriage being sacrosanct refuses to diminish. Certainly, though our parents and grandparents believed it was perfectly normal to settle down in their early twenties, we, on the other hand, go on about how marriage is nothing more than a money-making institution.
However, when in the throes of love, it's hard not to buy into committing to one partner, till death do you part, as something romantic. As such, we tend to hear horror stories of those who almost make it to the chapel, only to pull out at the last minute. Let's take a gander at some of the most ridiculous reasons why couples called off their nuptials, shall we?
Well, there you have it. People have the strangest reasoning for choosing to call it quits right before they're due to don the big white dress. I guess they're saving money on all the divorce proceedings, however.
As anyone who has a propensity for romantic films will attest to, people have the strangest of reasons for jilting their lover at the altar. Whether it's due to last minute cold feet or something a little darker, it's clear that some people just get freaked out by the concept of life-long commitment.
And sure, there is a lot to fear. With divorce rates doubling, and more and more people choosing to make the leap later in life, marriage has become somewhat of an outdated concept.
Certainly, Millennials are saying "no" to tying the knot in record numbers. Whilst our parents thought it was perfectly normal to enter into the institution of marriage in their early twenties, we eschew settling down with a near religious fervour. As such, it's become common to hear horror stories of those who very nearly make it to the chapel... only to pull out at the last minute. So let's take a look at some of the most ridiculous reasons why people chose to cancel their weddings, shall we?
1. Ouch
2. This is a little drastic, no?
3. Irrational fears can really take over when your nuptials are fast approaching
4. Sometimes, it's a good idea to call off your own wedding
5. And here's another legitimate reason...
6. Well, that didn't quite go to plan
7. Occasionally, the littlest of things can make you realise that there's a big problem
8. Finances can be a big deal for some
9. This should always be a deal-breaker
10. For others, fertility is a deal-breaker
11. In-laws can prove to be troublesome
12. They made the right decision
13. Other people really shouldn't get involved...
14. Oops
15. Sometimes the timing can be really off
16. This must have been painful
17. Communication is key
18. You can't let the fear of judgement hold you back
Although several of those decisions were entirely justified, a few really reiterate how important it is to have open lines of communication in the run up to marriage. Tying the knot is truly quite an undertaking, and so it is essential to evaluate where you are in your relationship and whether it is feasible for you to remain with this person, till death does you part...
Ah, marriage. In the idyllic white-picket-fence future we all at some point like to imagine for ourselves, we find someone who gives us butterflies (read: crippling anxiety) in our stomachs, plunge ourselves into debt for a lavish and unnecessary declaration of our love, sowing the seeds for decades of resentment, not to mention an expensive and agonising separation somewhere down the line, statistically.
At least the latest generation of wedding-aged people (the Millennials) know how much marriage sucks. Half of the time, the "til death do us part" of the agreement is voided, and who has the time and money to worry about overpriced diamonds, one-use dresses or orchid arrangements?! Here are a few more reasons, if you needed them, that some Millennials are completely against the idea of marriage.
1. Older generations just don't understand...
2. The fear is real
3. A wise strategy
4. Our parents' trauma becomes our reality
5. It's a valid point
6. True love isn't about pageantry
7. Money problems are the cause of many a conscious uncoupling
8. Who wouldn't want to be independent?
9. The childbearing life isn't for everyone
10. Different people have different definitions of success
11. More expensive weddings result in shorter marriages
12. Everyone should have the same rights to love
13. At least here, everyone's kind of in the same boat.
14. We're going to leave a very strange world behind for our kids
15. Maybe having a simple life partner is the way to go
16. The most important thing is that you love each other
17. Hopefully breaking the cycle
18. Kids are pretty hard to manage at the best of times
19. Infidelity is another leading cause of divorce
20. The married life definitely isn't for everyone
Well there you go. While there are an increasing number of people who are swearing off marriage, that doesn't necessarily mean that marriage is a bad thing, or that every Millennial is vehemently against it. I do hope that you've exposed yourself to some new opinions, and that at the end of the day, we all do what makes us happy in the long run.
Weddings are stressful at the best of times, and downright heart attack-inducing at the worst. If you've ever been involved in your fair share of nuptials, you'll know that the so-called "wonderful" time always descends into chaos. And regardless of whether this is because it proves impossible to please your in-laws, or make everything fit into an already tight budget, one thing is guaranteed: it never goes exactly to plan.
Certainly, we Millennials are saying "no" to marriage in record numbers. Whilst our parents and grandparents thought entering into the institution of marriage in their early twenties was the "normal" thing to do, we eschew settling down with a near-religious fervour. As such, it's become common to hear horror stories about people tying the knot. So let's take a look at some of the most surprising reasons why brides ended up despising their own weddings, shall we?
1. You have to take charge
2. Family drama is never needed at a wedding
3. This is not what you want
4. Mother in laws should never be so petty
5. Great timing, eh?
6. It should be about the bride and groom, nobody else...
7. Oops
8. How unfortunate
9. Weddings can be costly
10. They sure are expensive, too
11. This is not fair
12. You never want tying the knot to be a "tacky" affair
Well, there you have it. While your wedding is supposed to be one of the most wonderful days of your life, a variety of factors can turn it into a living nightmare.
While our parents and grandparents thought entering into the institution of marriage in their early twenties was the "normal" thing to do, us Millennials are saying "no" to marriage in record numbers. And because we're all eschewing settling down with near-religious fervour, it's common to hear less-than-wonderful tales of marital life. Case in point: here are 14 confessions from married couples who are in the throes of divorce, even though they don't want to be...
1. This can't be pleasant
2. Oh dear
3. It's a long time to be together
4. Mixed signals
5. Worrying...
6. There's still hope
7. You shouldn't have to live like this...
8. Wow
9. Wait it out?
10. It will get better, eventually
11. A sticky situation
12. Divorce is always hard for children to handle
Well, there you have it - far from being smooth-sailing, marriage comes with plenty of ups and downs...
Most little girls dream of the day they'll marry the love of their life, and sometimes they even reel in the poor unsuspecting boy from next door to stand there while they play it out with their giggling friends (sorry, Tim). But it turns out that when you get older, no matter if you're in a loving relationship or not, you might realise that marriage isn't actually for you.
And no, it's not because you're a cold-hearted witch or because of your disgusting over-dependency on dry shampoo. In fact, it's totally okay not to get married, and there are plenty of legitimate reasons why you shouldn't.
Here, have a read and see if getting hitched isn't something you're too concerned about.
1. Your "dream wedding" doesn't exist
And trying to think of one on the spot has you drawing up blanks. While all your girlfriends already know that they want to have a beach wedding, wear a lace A-line dress with a sweetheart neckline and can even state what thread-count their wedding night sheets will be, you just sit there doing a slow whistle on the inside, thinking about what a monumental waste of effort and moneyit all is.
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2. You're a very independent person
You don't really get lonely and if someone said "imagine if you had to spend the rest of your life alone", it wouldn't make you freeze up and fall to the ground in fear. You're pretty good on your own, you get stuff done, and you actually enjoy spending time with yourself (*high-fives self*).
3. Marriage isn't something you think of veryfondly
Like, what good is all that paperwork worth, really? Do you really need a law-binding contract to profess your love for each other? Nope, marriage is an outdated tradition in your opinion. Even if you do end up sticking with your significant other forever, it's because things just worked out, and it has nothing to do with the institution of marriage.
4. In fact, you don't want to live an ordinary life at all
School, work, house, kids – boring! Who says your life needs to fit into the same formula that people have been told to follow? You'd rather just live life as it comes and not be bound by too many things. Spontaneous holidays to Peru and pub-crawls you didn't see coming are what you live for.
While it's not necessarily a bad thing to stand for what you believe in and work hard for what you want, being uncompromising to the point of selfishness won't really work in a marriage. Healthy relationships depend on compromise, so you need to be able to give in to certain things for the sake of it. Come on, is your way of making avocado toast reallyso much better?
The idea of sticking to one person for a prolonged period of time (let alone 'til death do you part) makes you feel really uncomfortable, and you just don't want to have to "promise" yourself to something or someone. Heck, you even have second thoughts about the sandwich you just bought for lunch!
7. You're happier out of relationships than in them
Even if they're a really decent person and you adore them, the whole relationship thing just isn't for you. You'd prefer something more easy-going that doesn't necessarily play by the rules. And you probably fall out of love relatively quickly too.
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Who cares if you're not cut out for marriage – the idea of matrimony doesn't sit well with everyone, and that's totally okay. It doesn't mean a loving partner and a happy relationship is out of the question for you, and even if being blissfully solo is more your thing, then so be it! Do what makes you happy.
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