The buzz around the royal wedding last weekend has just started to calm down, but with that many guests and experiences to share, we're not done with it yet.
Patrick J Adams, the actor who has played fraudulent lawyer Mike Ross on Suits for a number of years, was one of the lucky people to land an invite to the wedding on Saturday, showing up looking dapper for the cameras. The reason for his invite was his connection to Markle, as she and him were husband and wife on the show, back when she was still immersed in the world of television.
However, Adams has got into the news lately after an unpleasant conversation he had with a stranger in the airport after the wedding, as well as his subsequent social media posts about it. Apparently, the unnamed woman criticized how he looked at the wedding, leading to him posting a photo of her sleeping onto Instagram, with a caption that read:
"She reads her paper. See's picture of me and Troian from wedding. 'My God. What a terrible photo of you.'
"I look over. 'Really. I kind of like that photo. What do you think is wrong with it?' She pauses. 'Well, you're just so....chunky.' She laughs and falls asleep. And .... scene. #royalwedding"
While it no doubt felt good to share the story with his fans, the Instagram post was something that the Canadian actor came to regret. He began to receive comments, even from fans, that told him that he didn't have to get 'even', and should have taken the high road.
He later deleted the post, clearly regretting trying to shame her back, but since it went viral many were looking for his comments on the matter. Now, he has returned to Instagram to clarify exactly what he was trying to do, and how he felt about the interaction in the first place. He wrote:
"Yesterday I posted a photo of a woman who did some casual body shaming of my wife and I in the airport.
"My intention was solely to put a face to the people who think that sort of glancing commentary is necessary, helpful or funny.
"Some of the comments on the post instead said I was being a bully and should have taken the 'high road'...
"I thought it over and agreed and took it down, not because I felt the woman was right or fair or undeserving of being called out but because any sense of being a bully or lashing out felt wrong."
He writes that he chose to comment there rather than to directly speak with any publication, wanting the world to know he's "no bully".
"I'm no bully. What that woman said to us was offensive and unnecessary but I should have told her she was rude and out of line and left it at that. I'm sorry I didn't.
"I was too shocked and annoyed and Canadian - so I avoided the confrontation. Again, I'm sorry. Now if you see the original post on any media outlet just know that they are choosing to take a relatively small indiscretion and make it worse.
"Not for me. Because I promise you once I hit post on this message it will be out of my mind forever. But it will make whatever bullying or embarrassment I might have caused for that woman far worse for a far wider audience."
To finish things up, he ended the post with a summary of his points. He insists not to "talk s**t" about the way others look, as "you have no idea what's going on with them and your commentary will always make their day worse not better". He then confessed that it's best to confront people face-to-face than through the internet, adding that we should believe "pretty much nothing" we read in magazines, good or bad.
I think it's understandable why he was upset at the comments, and where the impulse to criticize the woman publicly came from - but it's a good thing he chose to release a more measured response in the aftermath too.
