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Published 09:29 20 Apr 2024 GMT
A man has sparked a heated debate on social media after saying he refuses to give up his seat for pregnant women as he is tired from working long hours.
It is a socially accepted rule of public transport that seats - especially designated priority seats - should be given up to those who need it most - such as the elderly, those with disabilities, and pregnant women.
However, one man has vocally expressed his refusal to give up his bus seat for a pregnant woman due to the fact that it was her "personal choice" to carry a child.
Taking to Reddit's Am I The A**hole? subforum, the man in question titled his post: "AITA for not giving up my seat to a pregnant woman?"
In his lengthy post, the man asked fellow Redditors if he was in the wrong for refusing to give up his seat for a pregnant woman after he had just worked a ten-hour shift.
"So last night I’m on the bus, and a very heavily pregnant lady gets on," he writes. "She looks around for a seat, only to find there are no available ones left. I’m the closest to her, so she starts giving me the imploring eyes.
"I wasn’t rude or anything, I just told her no, I’ve had a long day and my feet are sore. I don’t want to give up my seat."
"She started crying about how she’s a pregnant single mom," the post continues. "I told her I’m sorry, but that was her personal choice and she can’t expect other people to accommodate her life choices."
The Redditor then detailed how he told the woman that it wasn't his job to support her because she couldn't afford a car. He added that a nearby elderly man then started to call him out over his comments.
"I was tired and had a long day, and I don’t know why we need to keep perpetuating the idea that breeding somehow means [you're] entitled to people’s seats," he concluded the post.
After pitting the question of whether or not he was, in fact, being an a**hole, Redditors were divided.
As expected, there were plenty of people who chewed him out of his lack of respect toward the pregnant woman.
One person commented: "Yeah - YTA [You're the a**hole]. Did you know that being heavily pregnant really alters your balance, let alone the tired thing?
"No - you didn't ask her to be pregnant, but you can, as an able-bodied otherwise healthy person just choose to be nice. By being a selfish grumpy bugger a heavily pregnant person and an old person fell over. Bringing up the contraception/abortion/'breeding' angle too really makes you an a**. I bet you're a real 'nice guy'."
Another person added: "It should absolutely be expected to give up your seat to someone who physically needs it more."
And a third added: "YTA. The way you talk about others is disgusting. [It's] also just general politeness/decency to give up your seat to someone who is pregnant."
However, some other commenters were more supportive and said that the pregnant woman didn't have the right to demand a seat just because she was carrying a child.
For instance, one commenter wrote: "I’m a woman, btw. I just don’t feel like you should be forced to give up your seat because she is pregnant.
"Yes, pregnancy sucks, and it’s uncomfortable as all hell, but that is no reason for you to suffer, imo. You’re in pain, too, and there were plenty of other people who could have stood rather than you."
So, was this man in the right for taking a hardline stance on this issue? Be sure to let us know what you think in the comments section.
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Published 14:34 06 Nov 2022 GMT
There's nothing worse than being on your feet all day, only to hop on public transport on your way home and find that there's nowhere to rest your weary legs. Let's face it: it sucks.
Your legs are swelling, feet burning, back aching... it's a nightmare.
Well, this was the case for one man who sparked a debate on Reddit after revealing he didn't want to give up his bus seat for a heavily pregnant woman.
Yikes...
Posting his experience on the aptly-named Reddit subforum Am I The A**hole?, the man explained that his feet were sore after he'd completed a ten-hour shift at work, so when a pregnant woman asked him to give up his seat, he flat-out refused.
Titling the controversial thread: "AITA for not giving up my seat to a pregnant woman?" the Redditor explained that as he was riding a bus when a heavily pregnant woman came aboard. She immediately looked for a seat, but there were none left, and because he was closest, she looked at him imploringly.
He wrote: "I just told her no, I've had a long day and my feet are sore. I don't want to give up my seat. She started crying about how she's a pregnant single mom, and I told her I'm sorry, but that was her personal choice and she can't expect other people to accommodate her life choices."
He then explained that he shouldn't have to make concessions to her because she can't afford a car to drive. It was at this point that an elderly man on the bus interjected, and berated the original poster for refusing to give up his seat to the woman. He then offered to give the woman his seat, but as the exchange took place, the pair fell over.
"They started yelling at me, calling me all sorts of nasty names, but I just looked the other way and ignored it," he wrote.
Unsurprisingly, this was a particularly controversial revelation, and many Reddit users took to the comments section to slam the man for his actions.
One wrote: "The whole giving up seats for the pregnant and the elderly thing isn't because they're pregnant/elderly, it's because these particular groups are more likely to fall and suffer serious injuries when they do.
"OP, being tired sucks, but being tired and sore doesn't make you more vulnerable to bad falls, being pregnant does. That's why you're supposed to give up your seat. YTA and a massive one at that (because of the rant)."
A second added: "Yeah - [you're the a**hole]
"Did you know that being heavily pregnant really alters your balance, let alone the tired thing?
"No - you didn't ask her to be pregnant, but you can, as an able-bodied otherwise healthy person just choose to be nice."
Meanwhile, a third Reddit user criticized the other bus patrons for not offering up their seats either.
However, some people agreed with the original poster and said he had every right to say no to the pregnant woman.
One wrote: "NTA. She asked and you said no, you aren't obligated to give up your seat, that's why there are sections in buses for pregnant and old people, she could've gone to those seats. I've had days where my feet were so sore from standing all day they would swell, and in those days I for sure wouldn't give up my seat."
A second chimed: "OK, first - who gets to decide that she needs the seat more than OP? Were you in OP's shoes? I can imagine the answer is no.
"Second - if the lady had taken no as an answer and moved along (apparently common sense is not so common anymore) she could likely get a seat from someone else.
"Third - if the elderly guy wasn't 'enjoying' the spectacle and offered his seat earlier (as apparently he didn't need it that much) - they wouldn't have fallen.
"So I'll say it again - NTA."
A third agreed, writing: "NTA I completely agree. Not your fault she got on public transportation knowing that there might not be sitting room. She can deal until there's one available."
Who's the a**hole in this situation? Should a pregnant woman take priority over a tired shift worker, or the other way around? Let us know your thoughts in the comments.
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Published 10:41 15 May 2021 GMT
There's nothing worse than being on your feet all day, only to hop on public transport on your way home and find that there's nowhere to rest your weary legs. Let's face it: it sucks. Your legs are swelling, feet burning, back aching... it's a nightmare.
Well, this was the case for a man who sparked a debate on Reddit, after revealing he didn't want to give up his bus seat for a heavily pregnant woman. Yikes...
Posting his experience on the aptly-named Reddit subforum, Am I The A**hole?, the man explained that his feet were sore after he'd completed a ten-hour shift at work, so when a pregnant woman asked him to give up his seat, he flat-out refused.
Titling the controversial thread: "AITA for not giving up my seat to a pregnant woman?" the Redditor explained that as he was riding a bus, a heavily pregnant woman came aboard. She immediately looked for a seat, but there were none left, and because he was closest, she looked at him imploringly.
He wrote: "I just told her no, I've had a long day and my feet are sore. I don't want to give up my seat. She started crying about how she's a pregnant single mom, and I told her I'm sorry, but that was her personal choice and she can't expect other people to accommodate her life choices."
He then explained that he shouldn't have to make concessions to her because she can't afford a car to drive. It was at this point that an elderly man on the bus interjected, and berated the original poster for refusing to give up his seat to the woman. He then offered to give the woman his seat, but as the exchange took place, the pair fell over.
"They started yelling at me, calling me all sorts of nasty names, but I just looked the other way and ignored it," he wrote.
Unsurprisingly, this was a particularly controversial revelation, and many Reddit users took to the comments section to slam the man for his actions.
One wrote: "The whole giving up seats for the pregnant and the elderly thing isn't because they're pregnant/elderly, it's because these particular groups are more likely to fall and suffer serious injuries when they do.
"OP, being tired sucks, but being tired and sore doesn't make you more vulnerable to bad falls, being pregnant does. That's why you're supposed to give up your seat. YTA and a massive one at that (because of the rant)."
A second added: "Yeah - [you're the a**hole]
"Did you know that being heavily pregnant really alters your balance, let alone the tired thing?
"No - you didn't ask her to be pregnant, but you can, as an able-bodied otherwise healthy person just choose to be nice."
Meanwhile, a third Reddit user criticized the other bus patrons for not offering up their seats either.
However, some people agreed with the original poster and said he had every right to say no to the pregnant woman.
One wrote: "NTA. She asked and you said no, you aren't obligated to give up your seat, that's why there are sections in buses for pregnant and old people, she could've gone to those seats. I've had days where my feet were so sore from standing all day they would swell, and in those days I for sure wouldn't give up my seat."
A second chimed: "OK, first - who gets to decide that she needs the seat more than OP? Were you in OP's shoes? I can imagine the answer is no.
"Second - if the lady had taken no as an answer and moved along (apparently common sense is not so common anymore) she could likely get a seat from someone else.
"Third - if the elderly guy wasn't 'enjoying' the spectacle and offered his seat earlier (as apparently he didn't need it that much) - they wouldn't have fallen.
"So I'll say it again - NTA."
A third agreed, writing: "NTA I completely agree. Not your fault she got on public transportation knowing that there might not be sitting room. She can deal until there's one available."
What do you think? Was this man wrong for refusing to give up his seat? Or was the real problem the other patrons who didn't intervene and offer their seats instead? Let us know in the comments section.
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Published 19:03 03 Nov 2020 GMT
A man has provoked controversy on social media saying he refuses to give up his seat for pregnant women because of his long working hours.
The trouble began when the man in question took to a subforum on Reddit called Am I The A**hole? - where users post about a recent grievance or conflict they've experienced and the online community then votes on whether or not the original poster was in the wrong or not.
In a thread titled "AITA for not giving up my seat to a pregnant woman?", the original poster asked the community if I was wrong of him to refuse to give up his own seat for a pregnant woman on public transport, after doing a ten-hour long shift at work.
Take a look at this video of a woman who pretended to be pregnant to save money on travel:
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In a lengthy post the Redditor wrote:
"So last night I’m on the bus, and a very heavily pregnant lady gets on. She looks around for a seat, only to find there are no available ones left. I’m the closest to her, so she starts giving me the imploring eyes.
"I wasn’t rude or anything, I just told her no, I’ve had a long day and my feet are sore. I don’t want to give up my seat.
"She started crying about how she’s a pregnant single mom, and I told her I’m sorry, but that was her personal choice and she can’t expect other people to accommodate her life choices."
The Redditor then said he told the woman that it wasn't his job to support her because she couldn't afford a car, which led to him being berated by an elderly man who was also using the bus.
Suffice it to say, the post divided opinion on Reddit, with many social media users criticizing the man's attitude.
For instance, one Reddit-user wrote: "Yeah, whats next, blaming an old person for being old? Blaming deformed people for being born? You see someone who needs a seat, you give it to them. [sic]"
However, some other commenters were more supportive and said that the pregnant woman didn't have the right to demand a seat just because she was carrying a child.
For instance, one commenter wrote: "I’m a woman, btw. I just don’t feel like you should be forced to give up your seat because she is pregnant.
"Yes, pregnancy sucks, and it’s uncomfortable as all hell, but that is no reason for you to suffer, imo. You’re in pain, too, and there were plenty of other people who could have stood rather than you."
So, was this man in the right for taking a hardline stance on this issue? Or was he being unreasonable and rude? Let us know what you think in the comments section.
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Published 16:20 12 Oct 2023 GMT
People have been left shocked after hearing that a passenger refused to offer a pregnant woman her seat on a bus because she was "tired."
Now, we can all agree that it's common decency that if you're sitting on a seat, especially on public transport, and someone - whether it be an elderly person or a pregnant woman - is standing up, you offer them your seat, right?
Well, it seems as though this isn't a universal mannerism for some people as one person took to Reddit's notorious 'Am I The Ass****' thread to admit that they felt bad after refusing to give their seat to a heavily pregnant person.
"I (F) was coming back home from college using the public [sic] transportation as I often do (I live in Argentina). In my stop [sic] there were plenty of seats available, [and] I [picked] one in the back of the bus near the door," wrote the anonymous user.
She continued: "A few stops after a pregnant woman got in, she ignored the first seats (which are the priority seats) and came up to me and asked if I could give her the seat."
However, rather than getting up and giving her the seat, she instead refused because she was "tired" and told the woman to go and pick one of the empty ones near the front of the bus.
"She mumbled that I was a jerk and said she's 8 months pregnant," she wrote. "I told her I don't care for that and that the priority seats are in the front of the bus."
The user then concluded that she was actually "entitled" to the seat because she had got there first.
"Somebody else gave her a seat in the background but still made me feel kinda like an a**hole," she stated. "I think I'm entitled to the seat if I got in before. But I also don't know if the people in the priority seats were people who really needed it so that woman couldn't have asked them to give it to her."
Of course, social media users were not impressed by this person's lack of consideration.
"It is disappointing what the world is coming to," wrote one user. "Pregnant women act 'entitled' now because of their 'choice.' That’s where we are? What has happened to common courtesy and decency? For the men throwing shade at the pregnant lady, may this never happen to your wife. To the women, may this never happen to you."
Another also agreed, writing: "So here’s the thing, you don’t have to give up a seat for a heavily pregnant person. It’s the kind, considerate, understanding and sympathetic thing to do and if you don’t don’t do it, then you are exactly what you think you are. I think YTA, but then again I give pregnant people a seat."
A third stated that they were "disappointed" at the fact that the woman even had to ask for a seat in the first place with no one willingly offering one to her.
And this user also added their opinion to the mix, writing: "YTA. You're young, you're healthy, you're not 8 months pregnant. While there's no legal obligation for you to give up the seat, you give up the seat. Jesus, you don't need a law or a written contract to do a solid for someone having a worse day than you."
However, not everyone was criticizing the college student, with one person commenting: "NTA. She should have taken the priority seats or any other free seat. You don’t need to give up your seat in this situation."
Insanely, another also agreed that this user was NTA because the world shouldn't have to "cater" towards pregnant people.
"Going to be an unpopular opinion but, NTA," they wrote in their lengthy response. "The world shouldn’t have to cater to someone who is pregnant because she thinks everyone owes her courtesy for her decision to have a child. Why should OP have to give up their seat when there is a bus full of people who are all tired and want to sit."
"I have a physical disability and I never inconvenience anyone because they have just as much of a right to a comfortable ride that I want," they added.
But I think what they're missing is that it's very dangerous for a pregnant woman, especially one that is eight months along, to be standing on a moving vehicle. Not only that, if you think you're tired, imagine having to carry another being around all day while also doing what you need to do. Tired is an understatement for pregnant women.
The lack of empathy from some people under the post is unreal, but hey, what else can you expect from people?
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Published 14:30 15 Apr 2022 GMT
A pregnant woman has taken to social media to ask if she was in the wrong after she deliberately sat on a guy's hand when he refused to remove it from an empty bus seat.
Sharing her story to Reddit's 'AmITheA**hole?' forum, the 30-year-old woman - who uses the handle 'Tiredthriwaway55654' on the site - titled the post: "AITA for sitting on a man's hand after he refused to remove it from the empty seat?"
In her post, the woman revealed that she is currently eight months pregnant and takes a public bus to work daily.
"I'm always exhausted cause I have to work extra time to be able to afford basic necessities," she writes, adding that although the bus is often "packed", there are times when "decent folks volunteer their seats for me."
She continues: "Wednesday, I get on the bus like usual but this time there's one empty seat, I go to sit but I find a guy in his business attire sitting there with his hand on the empty seat (sort of like resting it?).
After asking the guy to remove his hand, the businessman responded by telling her it was "taken". After asking who the seat was reserved for, he said it was for "his hand".
"I laughed a little but wasn't feeling well so I ask him to remove it so I could sit but he refuses again," she writes. "I tell him I'm tired and needed to sit and he replies saying my pregnancy isn't his problem.
"I had enough at this point, my legs were burning and my back was hurting, so I go ahead and sit on his hand."
In response, she says that the guy "freaked out" and tried to remove his hand quickly while shouting at the mom-to-be.
"He then starts arguing about how disrespectful I was to do this inappropriate thing and in public no less," she writes. "He gets off after saying I was being inappropriate and disrespectful. Everyone stares at me and I just sit there feeling a bit of shame about what happened."
After telling her husband about the incident, the woman says her partner agreed that she had acted "inappropriately" and "shouldn't have made this guy uncomfortable".
She adds that her husband told her that she had "f***ed up" and "was totally inappropriate".
After admitting that she could have potentially de-escalated the situation by talking to the driver, the woman writes that the man didn't pay for the bus seat, so she had a right to use it.
After asking the people of Reddit if she was the a**hole in the situation, the post amassed more than 2,500 comments, with most users agreeing that the woman was, indeed, NTA (not the a**hole).
One Redditor joked: "NTA. Though, I can't believe you stole the seat from his only lover!"
A second added: "NTA. Seats are for butts, not hands. If you don't want a butt on your hand keep it on your own seat."
"NTA. I've been 8 months pregnant on public transportation and I 100% would have done exactly as you did," a third added.
"NTA one seat per passenger unless space permits which it didn't because you as a passenger wanted to sit. He's an entitled a**hole and so is your husband," wrote a fourth.
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