Man says he 'regrets' his reaction after walking in on wife having sex with another man

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There are countless ways you might find out that your significant other is cheating on you.

Perhaps they don't seem as interested in intimacy with you so you suspect they are getting it elsewhere. Maybe you've seen cold, hard evidence - an x-rated message from their lover perhaps?

And maybe, just maybe, they might be the ones to blurt it out to you without any necessary action on your part.

But unless your life tends to play out like a Hollywood rom-com, it's probably quite unlike that you'll actually catch them in the act.

On the other hand, stranger things have happened.

In fact, one man named Ira van den Heuvel has recalled how he found out that his wife was cheating on him in that very way.

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Needless to say, he was furious to find his wife having sex with another man - in his own home, no less. But in his anger, he did something that he still regrets to this day...

It all started with a break in his work schedule, which allowed to him stop by his house. He said that he wanted to "kiss my wife and son while they were sleeping and tell them I love them."

"I was smitten with my family and hated working at night. Especially the part about being away from them," he said. "Pulled up in front of my house and immediately noticed that there was a big, black Dodge truck parked in my driveway.

"This truck was not recognizable as belonging to anyone I knew so I double-timed it to the front door out of concern for a possible intruder."

But it wasn't the kind of intruder that he was thinking of.

He continues: "Once at the front door, I could clearly hear sounds from the master bedroom window next to the door."

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"Sounds I recognized as my wife whilst engaged in coitus. But with some other dude grunting and moaning along. Hmm. What to do, what to do?

"Noticing that the front door was ajar, I sprang into action. Gently as was prudent, I kicked the door the rest of the way open and said loudly, 'HONEY, I'M HOME!' In a really sarcastic tone.

"The ensuing chaos was mildly hilarious... a blur of naked male a** cheeks streaked from my bedroom to the bathroom, then closed and locked the door.

"I looked in the bedroom at my wife. She was sitting up in the bed covered neck down with a sheet, sobbing and saying she was sorry over and over.

"I said as calmly as I could, 'I'm going to see your guest out, then I have to get back to work. For now, be a mother to our son. We'll talk in a few hours.'

"Then, I picked up a pair of pants from the floor that was obviously not mine and closed the door, my wife now becoming slightly hysterical."

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And then Ira did something that he still regrets today.

"I knocked on the bathroom door and said as gently as I could, 'Say man, I have your pants out here. Open up a bit and I'll pass them through. Then get the f**k out of my house."

"He opened up a wee bit and took his pants from me. Then, about a minute later, he opened the door.

"POW! I sucker punched the fellow in the mouth the second his face came into view, drawing blood immediately.

"A look of shock appeared on the guys face as if to say, 'What? I didn't do nuthin'!' I retorted, 'Leave. Now. Call the police if you must, but do it somewhere else.'

"He never did. Turns out, he was a co-worker at my wife’s place of employment and was also married so he didn't want his wife to find out."

Ira said he regretted resorting to violence as it is "against [his] nature" to "use violence in an offensive manner."

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"At the time, I rationalized it as being self-defense, an intruder in my home."

"But that’s bulls**t. He didn't take anything my wife did not give up willingly; I was simply responding to the turmoil of emotions and that awful pain of heartbreak clawing my chest apart.

"Still not okay. I wish none of that evening had happened, but most of all wish I hadn't hit the guy."

Ira then proceeded to pack up his things and left his wife.

He continues: "How my son was involved and affected is not relevant here, but suffice to say, he got hurt the worst of anyone involved. I regret that as well. "

Now, though, he has a "lovely lady friend with whom I am more than happy. A decent job, a home, a family. Not proud, not ashamed. And that's good enough for me."