A bride has revealed she is considering canceling her wedding after a dispute with her husband-to-be over their wedding dinner options.
The unnamed woman revealed that while her fiancé is a vegan she is a meat eater, but the issue has never caused a problem between them before.
However, when it came to deciding on what to serve their guests at their wedding, he refused to back down on it being vegan food only so as not to "offend" his family at having to even be around others eating meat.
The bride-to-be wrote into an advice column, explaining: "My wedding is coming up in a few months… but during the planning, my fiancé and I have become involved in such furious arguments, over the food of all things, that I’m not sure I actually want to go through with it."
She added in the letter, shared by the Daily Mail, that the pair had met on the dating app Hinge and the fact he was a vegan had "actually put [her] off him" when they first matched as she is "a gal with a big appetite for burgers and steak".
However, once their relationship got more serious she found it wasn't a big deal and it never caused any arguments when the two of them were cooking together at home.
Things started to change when they began planning their wedding as she added: "However, when he proposed and we started planning our wedding, he told me that he wouldn’t feel comfortable serving any meat at the reception. A lot of his family is vegan and he said that they’d be offended to even be around meat."
She admitted it had been a "bone of contention for months now", and things got so heated that they'd even had "screaming matches in front of the caterer" because the groom was so upset she'd asked to sample a meat dish, adding: "He allows meat in our home so it makes no sense to me that he would want to ban it from our wedding."
The bride continued: "I know my friends and family are going to be miserable at the idea of attending a vegan dinner – but when I raised that, he made it seem like his family is the only one that matters."
She confessed that her fiancé's stubbornness around the issue was giving her "really cold feet" as she'd seen "another side to him" that she "didn't realize existed before", adding: "I’m terrified that I’ve made a huge mistake and agreed to marry the wrong guy. But is it stupid to call off my wedding over a steak!?"
The columnist advised her that it wasn't just about the steak but "bigger issues" that were beginning to come to light within the relationship, as marriages are about compromise rather than one person getting their own way with the big decisions.
Others in the comments added: "Run girl run......he doesn't have a problem at home but now does due to family at the wedding.....guarantee 100% is his mom....YOUR FUTURE MOTHER IN LAW. And he's putting her first and only listening to mom......run, this will be your life."
Another wrote: "Certainly this conflict won't just be the issue at the Reception, it will arise at every family get-together, birthday, anniversary, Sunday dinner ... whatever, given the perspective of the non-vegan and her family versus the potential husband and his family. It she doesn't realise this,and act accordingly, ie, leave the relationship , well she' is accepting a lifetime of divisive misery. Marriage is challenging enough without radical belief issues. And this is one of those."
Someone else commented: "Remember the person you married is the person you married. If you are expecting a different person after the vows, you are going to be surely disappointed," while another added: "Definitely postpone the wedding and talk about the way you want to raise any kids you may have. Also, what if, at some point he decides he does not want to allow meat in the house? So much to consider..."
One reader pointed out: "I think alarm bells are ringing loudly here. He has no right to impose his wishes in both families on a day which should be about both of you. If they have children, would he insist that they are brought up vegan? I can see trouble ahead unless he backs down. If he doesn't, she might have to face facts and call it off. Better to find out now than after they've married."
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