Woman given 9 months left to live asks husband if she can sleep with ex one last time

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By Asiya Ali

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A heartbroken husband was left distraught after his wife revealed that her dying wish is to sleep with her ex one last time.

A man explained in a now-deleted Reddit post on the subforum "Am I The A**hole" - that has since been re-posted by another user - that his wife was diagnosed with a terminal disease and had about nine months left to live.

Of course, he wanted to support her through her devastating final months and "grant whatever wish," but when she disclosed that she's been longing to sleep with an ex-partner one last time, he wasn't sure if he could help her.

As he had "no one" to tell, the husband decided to turn to the social media forum for advice from fellow users.

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The man's dying wife revealed that her last wish is to sleep with her ex one last time. Credit: Paul Strowger / Getty

The unnamed man began his story by sharing his response to his wife's diagnosis, and stating that he is destroyed as they have been together for a decade. "I don’t remember life without her and I don’t know what I’m going to do when she's gone," he emotionally said.

However, he said he could not understand one of her wishes: "Recently she sat me down and told me that one of the last things she wanted to do was have sex with a previous partner of hers. I of course was shocked and when I asked why the f*** she wants that."

"So basically she thinks that her most physically compatible satisfying lover was him. She gave a whole monologue about how sex sometimes is just physical and how emotionally fulfilling sex is with me but it was b*****t to get to that point," he continued. "So now I'm left with this, deny my dying wife a wish for my own ego, or let her go f*** another man who she feels was better."

The man voiced his anger at her statement, saying that he is "pissed off" and "betrayed" by the fact that she even asked him. He said that he feels like he's been "put in a position where I have to say yes" because she is terminally ill, and doesn't have time left before she tragically passes away.

The devastated man concluded by expressing he feels "hurt" and knows how he wants to reply, but at the same time, he does not know if he's in the right. "I just hate everything about this," he added.

Upon reading his post, many commenters disagreed over the wife's wish. One person wrote: "I would say NTA, just because someone is terminally ill does not mean that they can dump this onto their partner even though they internally know that is is wrong."

"When they committed to their partner, I would assume that they never intended to have any more sexual encounters with their ex for the rest of their life. This does not change because the end of their life is sooner than they anticipated. Idk it sucks but I would hate for that to be something I would have to remember my partner asked for before they die. It would never leave my mind even after death," they added.

Another said: "NTA. She is tho. Let her go do what she wants and when she gets back you make sure you're gone. Get all your legal affairs in order first tho. Let her perish with her ex since he's so great. I hate foolishness."

A third remarked: "Well if she wants to do it, he should leave her and get a divorce of separate from her. Let her have sex with her ex and when she comes back because she needs help in her last few months - tell her to go ask her ex to help her."

"You don’t deserve this dude, I would be crushed If my partner asked me this. But yeah it’s a terrible memory to be left with but I would probably not even be able to stay with that person if they had told me that was what they wanted to do," they concluded.

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What would you guys do if you were in this unfathomable situation?

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