People speak out about #NotAllMenButAllWomen following Sarah Everard's death

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A recent YouGov poll found that 97% of women in the UK between the ages of 18-24 have experienced sexual harassment.

With the tragic death of Sarah Everard sending shockwaves throughout the UK and beyond, people are now speaking out about the importance of the '#NotAllMenButAllWomen' movement on social media.

While many men rightfully point out that they are not all guilty of predatory behavior, as the YouGov poll shows, the overwhelming evidence is that almost all women are victims.

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Over the last week, women have taken to social media to reveal how they have been conditioned to text friends and family that they have arrived home safe; to cross the street when they sense the slightest bit of danger, and to outright ignore it when strange men tell us to smile or become aggressive when we reject their advances.

And now, many social media users are speaking out and sharing their personal experiences using the hashtag '#NotAllMenButAllWomen' to communicate the message that women do not feel they are safe on our streets.

This comes just hours after the human remains found in a Kent woodland were confirmed to be that of Everard by Metropolitan Police.

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The hashtag was a direct response to a '#NotAllMen' hashtag that started trending on Twitter earlier this week.

However, as one social media user explains, "All that the #Notallmen hashtag does it to dismiss the experiences of women and girls who have faced sexual violence or harassment."

They continue: "Of course we know that not every man is responsible but it is important to discuss misogyny and to amplify women's voices. #notallmenbutallwomen"

This is something I can also attest to as a woman in my twenties; I don't know a single other female who has not been sexually harassed or assaulted.

Actor Simon Pegg took to Twitter this morning to share a short video in which he says: "It seems to me that women are constantly given the sort of guidelines to avoid being sexually harassed that families are given when they drive into a safari park.

"Except the difference is, the world is a safari park where you could actually tell the monkeys to stop being f*****g a***holes."

And one Twitter user shared a predatory message she received from a man after she simply ordered a pizza:

A second wrote: "16. Sexually assaulted on the sofa in my own living room. Are you saying I shouldn't have [fallen] asleep in the safety of my own home? #notallmenbutallwomen"

A third added: "18: intoxicated/passed out. Boy from school climbs into bed with me. Spread I 'wanted it'. I was asleep.

"19: grabbed in the street, man fondled my parts. I stood frozen.

"22: attacked in my home. He had to be pinned down to get off me. I am 1 of many.#notallmenbutallwomen"

A fourth wrote: "It might not be all men, but it is all women. Every single [woman] can tell you of a time they have felt uneasy, they have held their bag a little closer, have gripped their keys a little bit tighter and have felt that racing heart. #notallmenbutallwomen I just want to walk home."

The importance of the hashtag was summed up by author Julie Cohen who wrote: "I will say it is extraordinary how many men think that they will convince women that men aren't dangerous by disbelieving them and yelling abuse at them. #notallmenbutallwomen"

Cohen continued: "I've blocked over 100 people in the past few hours and will keep on blocking anyone who not-all-mens me. Trying to force women to justify their experiences to you is yet another form of male violence."

The death of Sarah at just 33 has been an unwelcome reminder of the fact that women are not safe, regardless of whether they are outside or in their homes.