Demi Lovato changed pronouns back to she/her because explaining they/them to people was 'absolutely exhausting'

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By Asiya Ali

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Demi Lovato has revealed the specific reason why they decided to re-adopt she/her pronouns in addition to they/them pronouns.

Back in 2021, the 30-year-old 'Cool For The Summer' musician revealed in a video uploaded to Twitter that they are non-binary and would be using they/them pronouns.

The Camp Rock actress told fans that they had been "doing some healing and self-reflective work" in the past year that had ultimately led them to re-examine their gender identity.

"With that said, I’ll officially be changing my pronouns to 'they/them'. I feel that this best represents the fluidity that I feel in my gender expression, and allows me to feel most authentic and true to the person I both know I am and still am discovering," Lovato added.

Then in August of 2022, Lovato announced that they have started using she/her pronouns again during an episode of the Spout Podcast, explaining: "I’m such a fluid person that I don’t find that I am…I felt like, especially last year, my energy was balanced in my masculine and feminine energy."

"So that when I was faced with the choice of walking into a bathroom and it said women and men, I didn’t feel like there was a bathroom for me because I didn’t feel necessarily like a woman, I didn’t feel like a man," she continued. "I just felt like a human."

The former Disney Channel star then went on to assure others that "nobody’s perfect" and "everyone messes up pronouns at some point, especially when people are learning".

Almost a year later, the Grammy-nominated singer opened up in a new interview with GQ Hype Spain about why she decided to re-adopt she/her pronouns in addition to they/them pronouns last year after announcing her nonbinary identity in 2021.

"I constantly had to educate people and explain why I identified with those pronouns. It was absolutely exhausting," Lovato said, translated from Spanish to English. "I just got tired. But for that very reason, I know that it is important to continue spreading the word."

The 'Heart Attack' vocalist also spoke out about wanting there to be more gender-neutral spaces for people like her, saying: "I face this every day. For example, in public toilets. Having to access the women's bathroom, even though I don't completely identify with it."

"Or it also happens when filling out forms, such as government documents or any other where you have to specify your gender. You only have two options, male and female, and I feel like none of that makes sense to me," they expressed. "I see myself conditioned to choose a woman because there are no more."

"I think this has to change. Hopefully, with time there will be more options," the 'Stone Cold' singer added.

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