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Women put up with a lot of crap from guys. Obnoxious bros catcall women when they walk down the street, following them for blocks, wondering why they're not smiling. Odious creeps use their positions of power at work to take advantage of women, committing acts of sexual harassment and sexual assault. And oblivious dudes like me keep texting women repeatedly, despite not getting any response back. (You're just playing hard to get, right? Right? Right? I'll text you again tonight.)
Well, 2018 is a bad year to be a perv. (Sorry, pervs). Cameras are ubiquitous, so offensive behavior can get captured on video and uploaded to the Internet. Also, with the rise of #MeToo and #TimesUp, women aren't putting up with sexist shenanigans anymore. (Again, sorry, pervs). For example, if you think grabbing a lady's ass is a charming way to say hello, be warned: she might go WWE on your ass.
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A Reddit user with the distinguished handle "sploogesock" posted a video recorded from a security camera at a restaurant. In the clip, a man in a red shirt gropes the server as he walks by. In the past, he might have gotten away it, but not this time. The server chases him down, grabs him by the collar and slams him into the garbage can. (And all while keeping her docket pad in hand!)
In the Reddit post, Mr. Sploogesock claimed to be the cousin of the server, and revealed the man was arrested in the restaurant later in front of his wife and two kids. (Although she might not be his wife for much longer!) Posted on the "Justice Served" subreddit, the thread went viral, earning 50,000 upvotes. The video was then picked up by The Chive, who posted it on their Facebook page, getting 450,000 views. Congrats, groping guy. You're famous.
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In the comments, one Redditor joked, "She’s a server... of justice." Another person wondered, "Why do people think it's ok for them to touch someone like that? What if someone grabbed his wife like that?" One individual claimed to be an employee at the restaurant, writing "This literally happens ALL the time. We just put the cameras up so this was the first guy we've been able to prosecute."
Of course, women aren't surprised by this type of behavior. In the replies, several ladies shared stories about scummy guys copping a feel. In some cases, they were able to counter-act, getting in a quick elbow jab or punch. But in many cases, the groper got away, making this video cathartic. "This was extremely satisfying to watch," wrote one Redditor.
So, if you're a perv, you might want to hop in the DeLorean and time travel back to a more primitive era, without cameras or the Internet. Or you could just, like, stop groping women. Because one of them might lay the smack down.
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1. This Reddit user's parents decided to disown her because of it
"[It's] like being in any other long-term relationship. Except he's less annoying and pushy about sex than younger guys are. And way hotter. I get a lot of s*** for it, but it's honestly the best decision I could've made. [We don't get any] strange looks, surprisingly. We get that we're 'a cute couple' pretty often, but we always holding hands and doing cute things. The majority of the s*** I get is from jealous younger guys. There is the 'age differences are always manipulative' group, too.
My mother wasn't that happy at first, because when she found out about him, I was graduating high school and moving in with him on the other side of the country. After I moved here though, she's making an effort to be nice to him. I think it's because she thought I wouldn't go to college, but I am.
[Our] age difference is 12 years. I've found that, generally, older guys are more responsive to what I do and don't want to do. I'm borderline asexual, so it's a big deal for someone to be impatient and pushy about sex. This is a generalisation, but younger guys tend to try to annoy me into things."
2. There are less "petty" arguments, according to this Reddit post
"My boyfriend is 30 years older than me, we have been together nine years. One of the things I noticed with him is that he doesn't 'allow' me to do things, I am an adult and I can hang out, drink, socialise, and be friends with whoever I want to be. He honestly doesn't care. We don't argue over petty s***, if there is an issue we can sit down, talk it out like adults and come up with a solution (80% of the time - don't get me wrong after nine years there have been a few big blow outs). I don't have to clean up after him ever, he's an adult and he acts like one. IDK I just like feeling like I have a partner and not someone who is trying to make my world revolve around them."
"I eventually realised that while I was seeing older men as these mature, refined, more stable and interesting people, they were not seeing me as a person in the same way. Instead, when they looked at me, all they saw was my young good looks. It was all about my sexual market value. That's really all I was to them, my appearance, and that was the only thing about me of value to them. I finally got wise and stopped dating much older guys, and if I had a time machine I'd go back and warn my younger self against doing it because in the same way it's a trope that rich guys hate it when gold diggers want them for their financial market value, I hated it that they just wanted me for my looks."
5. Other Reddit users said that they ran out of things to talk about with their older man
"Dated someone with an 11 year age gap. Eventually it got boring because our interests were so different we ran out of stuff to talk about. It was mostly just small talk like 'how was your day?' and 'do you watch this show?'... just random stuff. Our schedules were completely different as well. It was weird."
6. And sometimes age does take a toll on sex-drive
"I'm 25 and he is 48. I would say sex drive [is one of the biggest issues we face]. He is a settled man who can go months, if not years, completely content with his hand. I am one of those people who enjoy sex two to three times a week. I can't say we have really worked this out so much as slowly met in the middle."
Well, there you have it - the truth about dating older men. Are you tempted?opinion2 min(s) read
"There’s some? wh*res? in this house? / I said certified freak, seven? days a week / Wet a** p***y, make that pullout game weak, woo."
After Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion's 'WAP (Wet A** P***y)' dropped last Friday, conservative pundit Ben Shapiro, was quick to issue comment on the black-women led production. "It gets really, really, really vulgar," he said on his eponymous show, which aired on the August 10.
What followed was nothing short of cringe-induing. He recited the song's NSFW lyrics, while the music video played in the background - taking care to replace "p***y" with the "p-word" - as if uttering a popular term for the female genitalia was powerful enough to align him with libertarian values. It was painful to watch, entirely memeable, and, naturally, it went viral.
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Shapiro didn't stop there. He proceeded to mansplain a reductive, tokenistic view of feminism - and went so far to implicate himself in giving his wife an STD, by quoting her "doctor" diagnosis that having a "wet a** p***y" could mean you have "bacterial vaginosis, yeast infection, or trichomonis [sic]."
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"This is what feminists fought for," the 36-year-old said. "This is what the feminist movement was all about, and if you say anything differently it’s ’cause you’re a misogynist, see?"
After clips from his podcast began making the rounds on social media and attracting ridicule, Shapiro took to Twitter to clarify:
"Listen, guys. I fully explained on the show that it’s misogynistic to question whether graphic descriptions of “wet-a** p****” is empowering for women.
"'WAP' is obviously an incredibly profound statement of women’s empowerment, a la Susan B. Anthony. As I also discussed on the show, my only real concern is that the women involved — who apparently require a 'bucket and a mop' — get the medical care they require. My doctor wife’s differential diagnosis: bacterial vaginosis, yeast infection, or trichomonis."
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And so, the public humiliation of Ben Shapiro was complete.
Of course, being the subject of mockery has been Shapiro's calling card since he became the youngest nationally syndicated columnist in the United States at the age of 17 (at the time of writing, he has 7 million followers on Facebook and 3 million on Twitter, respectively), but his views are representative of the larger backlash the track has received.
The most vocal proponents of the criticism surrounding 'WAP' are, like Shapiro, right-leaning, male, and, white.
It's to be expected; two women, black to boot, who openly celebrate female sexuality, and describe the female genitalia in candid detail - bodily functions and all - would inspire repugnance in such a demographic.
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Shapiro giving his unsolicited opinion on a rap track is a savvy career move.
The clip of him reciting the track's lyrics has launched countless memes, and currently has 6.3 million views on Twitter. Consequently, the outrage that Cardi B and Megan's track incited has eclipsed the fact that the music video garnered 26 million views on YouTube in its first day, thereby breaking the record for the biggest 24-hour debut for an all-female collaboration on the platform.
But it's not just the likes of Shapiro that took umbrage with WAP. In a recent interview with Far Out Magazine, CeeLo Green, an African-American rapper, namechecked Cardi B and Nicki Minaj as releasing music that is "very unfortunate and disappointing on a personal and moral level".
"There was once a time when we were savvy enough to code certain things. We could express to those it was meant for with the style of language we used. But now music is shameless, it is sheer savagery. There should be a time and a place for adult content," Green said, adding: "You have the ‘Heads of State,’ like Nicki Minaj or someone who is up there in accolade: success, visibility, a platform to influence. Nicki could be effective in so many other constructive ways, but it feels desperate."
In the interview, Green only references female rappers; thus equating their sexually explicit lyrics to the "shameless" state of the music industry.
Speaking on 'WAP', Green continued: "Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion, they are all more or less doing similar salacious gesturing to kinda get into position. I get it, the independent woman and being in control, the divine femininity and sexual expression. I get it all." He then asks, "It comes at what cost?"
The irony doesn't go unnoticed. It was Green, of course, who glorified violence against women in Gnarls Barkley's 'Necromancer'. In it, he raps, "It’s naughty, very naughty necrophilia / Without a care I’m compassionate about killing her / I’d have my way with what’s left of the will of her / Cosmopolitans, and cocaine, and an occasional pill in her / When she spoke I saw a spark, but it was dark so / I drove her home when she died, sexy suicide."
While black male rappers have long incited criticism for their use of sexually explicit lyrics, it's hard to remember a time in recent years that one particular individual has been called out in the way that Cardi B and Megan have.
A 2012 Billboard article features the subheading: "The 10 hip-hop stars with the filthiest lyrics, from Lil Wayne to Akinyele to Plies, all for your nasty listening pleasure." The artists referenced are all male, and their graphic lines don't seem to render them "shameless", rather, it's the very "filthy" nature of their content that makes their music worth listening to.
Ultimately, men are able to rap about women's p******s, but those who possess them cannot.
A prime example is Lil Wayne's 2008 track, P***y Monster, in which he spits the bars: "When I lift my top lip I can still smell you / When I swallow my spit I can still taste you / Put that p***y in my face you / It goes P-*-*-*-Y because / It's the reason I am alive / Mama I need just to survive / It's like I got to eat to stay alive."
We are still uncomfortable with women expressing their sexuality, and we're even more squeamish when it comes to talking about their reproductive biology.
In popular culture, the vulva is only depicted as a flower or an aesthetically pleasing segment of fruit - tampon commercials remain clinical in their failure to depict menstrual blood - and so we infer that vaginas are something to silently possess, not something to talk about openly - whether they be dry, damp, or "wet".
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From loving sports to following the "bro code", there have always been certain unwritten rules when it comes to being a guy.
But take it from a fella who'd rather kick back with a beer and watch Married At First Sight with his wife rather than Monday Night Football with his boys - not all men think alike.
Now, male Redditors have taken to the social media website to answer one simple question: "What is an opinion you have, that is generally unpopular amongst other men?"
The question was originally asked by Redditor 'M_RONA', but his simple question was quickly flooded with more than 10,000 comments from guys who wanted to get certain things off their chests.
Some people may find this eye-opening, others will be able to relate 100%! Check out some of our favorite answers below...
1. "Strip clubs are depressing and lame," writes Raidicus. 2. "Yoga is a great thing to do if you work laborious jobs," commented venom259.
So, there we have it. All men really don't think alike...