Professional escort urges men to 'seek help' over common male issue she sees often at work

An Australian escort has spoken candidly about a common, but often misunderstood issue she frequently encounters with clients, and has vehemently urged men to seek medical advice rather than attempt to ignore the issue.

The hot topic of conversation addressed by Lilith Lodge, a professional escort, delves into a flaccid issue that affects millions of men, often leaving them feeling emasculated and embarrassed, and their significant other feeling insulted.

Lodge, who is based in Brisbane, Australia, says erectile dysfunction is far more widespread than many realise, yet still carries a stigma that prevents men from getting help.

“I think this is a really important topic of conversation to have because I feel like there’s a lot of men struggling with this that don’t actually realize that is what is going on.

"It’s just not something that is commonly spoken about.”

Erectile Dysfunction, commonly referred to as ED, affects approximately 30-50 million men in the United States alone, according to a 2025 study.

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Whether it be a bout of nerves that inhibits a man’s ability to attain or maintain the erection, simply a case of overthinking, or complete inexperience in a sexual setting, Lodge clarified that occasional difficulties are normal, but persistent problems may signal something more serious.

“What is erectile dysfunction? It is not being able to get or maintain a hard on… It’s really not uncommon for this to happen here or there as an occasional thing,” she said.

“If it’s an occasional thing, it’s probably not erectile dysfunction… But if this is a repeat issue, that is when you need to go and seek help for it.”

She stressed that recurring symptoms shouldn’t be ignored, warning: “It can actually be a sign of a much more serious health condition.

"That’s why I really want to push that you need to go and see a medical professional.”

According to the sex worker, there is a widespread misconception about how arousal works, and she works to dispel those myths in her honest discussion.

“It is so much more than just seeing a hot chick… There is so much more to that,” she said.

“It is like a connection between multiple different parts of your body — your mind and emotions… your hormones… your nerves, your blood vessels, everything.”

She added that anxiety can make the issue worse: “You can start getting into your head… ‘Oh my god, it’s not working’… and it just makes it worse and worse.”

Lodge highlighted that erectile dysfunction can be linked to a variety of physical and psychological factors that require greater attention than just a little blue tablet.

“It could be a sign of heart disease, clogged vessels, high cholesterol and blood pressure, diabetes, obesity,” she explained, adding that lifestyle factors like smoking, alcohol use, and certain medications may also contribute.

Mental health can also play a role. “Things like anxiety, depression, being incredibly nervous… or having incredibly low self-esteem… can often lead to this happening too.”

With all of the above cited as potential causes by Mayo Clinic, Lodge also noted that multiple systems in the body must work together, including the circulatory, nervous and endocrine systems, for normal function.

Lodge urges men to seek professional consultation and not to blame their partner

“Studies show that erectile dysfunction actually impacts 50 percent of men aged between 40 and 70,” she said. “So, this is way more common than we think it is.”

Through her work, she sees it regularly: “It is not uncommon at all. I probably encounter this at least once a fortnight, if not more frequently.”

Lodge also addressed how some clients react when experiencing difficulties, urging them not to blame others.

“It is not our fault,” she said plainly.

“If you’re not able to maintain that erection… there is nothing wrong with that, but it is not our fault.”

“See your GP firstly. Go and see your GP… you need to go and see a real GP to get an actual diagnosis,” she said.

She noted that treatment options can include medication, lifestyle changes such as exercise, and therapy.

“Even consider seeing a therapist… just having somebody to discuss these things with would be really beneficial.”

Ultimately, Lodge hopes speaking openly will encourage more men to take action: “It is really hard to see people struggling with this and not going and seeking help for it,” she said.

“This is something that I do encounter on a regular basis… and it’s not something that ever bothers me. My only issue is when clients are projecting their anger… onto myself.”

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