Despite inspiring literature from the dawn of humankind, and being the theme that much of the film industry is predicated upon, love remains a very elusive thing. Certainly, since childhood, we're indoctrinated to believe that the key to a fulfilling existence is locating our soulmate - namely, that one person who offsets our multiplicities in all of their imperfection.
Now, whether you choose to believe that this is a product of capitalism and the all-pervasive institution of marriage, one thing is for sure, deciding whether you should marry your partner is always a nerve-wracking endeavour, regardless of how "in love" you believe yourself to be.
So here's 8 men on what it takes for them to decide that the woman they love is "wifey" material:1. This Reddit user wants someone that he can always kiss-and-make-up with:
"I want someone that I can argue with (and who will argue with me), without it turning into a fight. Someone that can call me on my BS when it matters, who isn't going to flip out if I call her on hers. I'd much rather be with someone who will challenge me and make me rethink things than someone who is trying too hard to be nice and sweet all the time. (Then again, I may just have a thing for hot tempered girls.)"2. Having the same music taste is important, too
"She loves what she does, she cares about herself as much as she cares about me and she smiles a lot :) Bonus: she likes the same music as me."3. This Reddit user can't have a wife who gets too serious about everything
"The biggest thing that set my wife apart from every other girl I dated was just our ability to not take things so seriously.
I don't mean not taking our relationship seriously. Of course, we're committed to each other and our relationship, however we really don't get overly serious about our day to day interactions."4. And as ever, a sense of humour prevails
"And a sense of humor doesn't mean she laughs at funny things. It means she says funny things or does funny things. It means she makes YOU laugh. And that she does it regularly. If you have to think "when was the last time she made me laugh...a few weeks ago?" then she doesn't have a sense of humor."5. This Reddit user has to find his woman attractive
"She's got to be attractive to me, otherwise I don't think I'd be interested in getting to know her to begin with. But "being attractive" isn't just about looks. Unfortunately, I can't get around "good first impressions.
That being said, she'd need to have some sort of hobbies and interests. Literally anything that isn't "watching TV." I don't care if she drags me to a freakin' museum with weird crap, as long as she's into something."6. It makes sense...
"Wife material is easy to recognize; just ask yourself if you'd want that girl back to back with you to fight off sharks."7. For this Reddit user, they have to be a good person
"How they treat others, especially when there is nothing to gain. Looks will fade over time, but things like kindness and respect for each other should always be there."8. But ultimately, it always comes down to this:
"Someone who makes me better than I am"
Well, there you have it. Personally, I think it makes sense to be picky when it comes to marriage, I mean, they sure cost a fortune.
If you fancy improving what you already have, this gross habit is actually really good for your relationship.