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Published 17:43 02 Mar 2021 GMT
A bride-to-be has been left infuriated by her future mother-in-law who wants to wear a bridal gown to her wedding.
According to The Daily Star, the woman in question took to a subforum on Reddit called r/JUSTNOMIL - which describes itself as "a place to get support and advice dealing with mean, nasty, toxic, and/or abusive mothers-in-law and moms. [sic]"
In a since-deleted post made on a throwaway account last month, the bride wrote: "[She's] wondering why she can't wear the same colors as me. On our wedding day."
Per The Star, the post continues:
"Let me start with I told this lady MONTHS ago what colors not to wear. I told her what colors would look nice on her and with her complexion.
"She decides to use that information to only want to wear a dress within the color range of my just no list. And she was just saying how she wants to wear those colors and if she can't wear color JNcolor1, her backup was JNcolour2.
"She found something is going to match the wedding, which I already told her she should stand out and not blend in. Y'all the picture of the dress she sent, the mannequin had a veil on. [sic]"
She continued:
"My BIL told her absolutely not. She then started screaming at him about how it's impossible to find a dress in the limited amount of colors we gave her. He told her it's not that hard and to chill out.
"My fiancé and I called her when my BIL texted us and tried to have a conversation with her. She immediately began raising her voice telling us she wasn't going to talk about what she's wearing with us. It's not up for discussion then HANGS UP ON US.
"My fiancé has been incredibly supportive and told me that she doesn't have to be at our wedding and if she refuses to show us a dress then he will tell her she's not coming. [sic]"
The woman's post quickly accrued a large number of upvotes and more than 200 comments packed with advice from other sympathetic Reddit users.
For instance, one person wrote: "I mean, she can wear it, if she stays her *ss home. Sorry OP, hope your big day is beautiful and stress free!"
Another person stated: "Have her at the hair appointment. But a very cheap dress in okay colors and make it clear to her if she turns up in JN colors, she changing or she not coming. Have backup on hand."
A third person stated: "What a drama maker, your FMIL, making it worse to plan a wedding in an already [stressful] time! Good that you and your fiance will call her together, that way the message will get across more (hopefully).
"It is an option to go dress shopping with her? Even online, if it's not an option to go to the shops in person (with the current situations...). That way you'll have the final say and control, and she will feel included."
A fourth wrote: "As someone who recently got married, my advice: let MIL wear what she wants to wear and focus on yourself. This is not worth getting in a fight over, it just isn't.
"Even if she shows up in a white lace gown, nobody will notice and nobody will care and nobody will think that it takes away the attention on you. Move on."
Finally, someone else chimed in: "You could also try playing to her pride and reminding her that in today's society parents who choose to turn up in bridal colors are often mocked and ridiculed.
"It's considered tacky and a social faux pas that will only humiliate her and no one else, she won't get the reaction she thinks she will and she will be remembered for all the wrong reasons."
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