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Published 17:43 02 Mar 2021 GMT
A bride-to-be has been left infuriated by her future mother-in-law who wants to wear a bridal gown to her wedding.
According to The Daily Star, the woman in question took to a subforum on Reddit called r/JUSTNOMIL - which describes itself as "a place to get support and advice dealing with mean, nasty, toxic, and/or abusive mothers-in-law and moms. [sic]"
In a since-deleted post made on a throwaway account last month, the bride wrote: "[She's] wondering why she can't wear the same colors as me. On our wedding day."
Per The Star, the post continues:
"Let me start with I told this lady MONTHS ago what colors not to wear. I told her what colors would look nice on her and with her complexion.
"She decides to use that information to only want to wear a dress within the color range of my just no list. And she was just saying how she wants to wear those colors and if she can't wear color JNcolor1, her backup was JNcolour2.
"She found something is going to match the wedding, which I already told her she should stand out and not blend in. Y'all the picture of the dress she sent, the mannequin had a veil on. [sic]"
She continued:
"My BIL told her absolutely not. She then started screaming at him about how it's impossible to find a dress in the limited amount of colors we gave her. He told her it's not that hard and to chill out.
"My fiancé and I called her when my BIL texted us and tried to have a conversation with her. She immediately began raising her voice telling us she wasn't going to talk about what she's wearing with us. It's not up for discussion then HANGS UP ON US.
"My fiancé has been incredibly supportive and told me that she doesn't have to be at our wedding and if she refuses to show us a dress then he will tell her she's not coming. [sic]"
The woman's post quickly accrued a large number of upvotes and more than 200 comments packed with advice from other sympathetic Reddit users.
For instance, one person wrote: "I mean, she can wear it, if she stays her *ss home. Sorry OP, hope your big day is beautiful and stress free!"
Another person stated: "Have her at the hair appointment. But a very cheap dress in okay colors and make it clear to her if she turns up in JN colors, she changing or she not coming. Have backup on hand."
A third person stated: "What a drama maker, your FMIL, making it worse to plan a wedding in an already [stressful] time! Good that you and your fiance will call her together, that way the message will get across more (hopefully).
"It is an option to go dress shopping with her? Even online, if it's not an option to go to the shops in person (with the current situations...). That way you'll have the final say and control, and she will feel included."
A fourth wrote: "As someone who recently got married, my advice: let MIL wear what she wants to wear and focus on yourself. This is not worth getting in a fight over, it just isn't.
"Even if she shows up in a white lace gown, nobody will notice and nobody will care and nobody will think that it takes away the attention on you. Move on."
Finally, someone else chimed in: "You could also try playing to her pride and reminding her that in today's society parents who choose to turn up in bridal colors are often mocked and ridiculed.
"It's considered tacky and a social faux pas that will only humiliate her and no one else, she won't get the reaction she thinks she will and she will be remembered for all the wrong reasons."
Who's side are you on? Let us know in the comments!
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Published 12:12 03 Oct 2020 GMT
Another day, another wedding drama posted to social media!
Now, many of us are aware of just how important the wedding dress is to the bride. Many women search for hours and spend thousands of dollars to make sure they have the perfect dress for their big day.
After all, wearing a beautiful gown and walking down the aisle with everybody looking on in awe is a moment many brides dream about.
Related - Not all weddings go to plan, such as this groom's horrendous reaction of seeing his bride for the very first time:
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However, one bride-to-be has taken to Reddit to reveal that her dream wedding dress as been ruined - by her own mother-in-law.
Sharing her story in the 'Am I The A**hole' (AITA) subreddit, a Redditor with the username 'aitathrowaway566' took to the social media site to share her story.
She titled her tale: "AITA For demanding my fiancé and his mom to pay for a new wedding address?"
The 26-year-old bride-to-be then explains that she and her fiancé, 28, have been engaged for four months, and were planning to have their wedding on October 18.
However, sticking to the cliché, the woman was having trouble with her mother-in-law and the wedding dress.
The Redditor wrote:
"My future mother in law kept annoying me and sending me suggestions for choosing the right wedding dress, and said that she knew better and tried to get me to approve of wedding dresses that she chose and when she couldn't enforce her decision she demanded that I take her with me to buy my wedding dress so she could have an opinion.
After the mother-in-law declined the bride's invitation to go dress shopping with her, the bride explains that she was "able to find a really nice dress"
"Although it cost me a little over what I saved up for, but it was worth it," she writes, adding:
"I made some changes to it and it was perfect, it arrived to my apartment at the end of the week, I made sure it was stored in a safe place so it doesn't get ruined."
However, after returning home last week, she discovered that both her her fiancé and wedding dress were missing.
As the bride explains: "I called him immediately knowing that he must've taken it to show it to his mom since she continuously asked to see it and refused to have me send her pictures of it on Facebook."
The bride-to-be was then left fuming when her fiancé confirmed that he had taken it to show his mom.
"He said he was gonna be home in 30 minutes after he went to the supermarket," she wrote, as she continued:
"I waited for longer than I had to and then when he arrived I ran to get my dress that was buried underneath grocery bags, I took it to check on it and it's zipper was broken and the dress itself (fabric) was stretched out."
She added:"My mother in law must've tried it on, because it looked ruined, the straps were almost loose, I had to call my mother in law when my fiancé told me his mom and sister took turns to try it on, I was absolutely livid.
"She told me she did nothing wrong and that I was making a big deal out of it."
Oh boy... Anybody else seeing any red flags in this relationship or is it just me?
Our bride - who is understandably at the end of her tether here - continues: "She said she'd get a replacement for the broken zipper, but I told her to pay for a new dress since it was stretched out and no longer fitting.
"She refused and said that I probably wasn't happy with my dress choice and wanted to her to pay so I could get a new one, I yelled at her for trying it on and ruining it."
After her own mother offered to pay for a new dress, the Redditor says: "I just hate it now that someone else wore it before me.
"I'm mad at both of them and seriously considering postponing the wedding."
Of course, other Redditors were quick to support the distressed bride, with some people saying she should call the wedding off entirely.
One person wrote: "Girl do you hear yourself?? Your fiance took your wedding dress without permission and allowed multiple people to try it on!
"Do you understand how disrespectful and inappropriate that is? You not only have a bad mother in law problem, you have a HUGE fiance problem. Needless to say, id be doing more than postponing"
Another person commented: "Who the hell does something like that? That is wrong on so many levels I can't even with them. Definitely start shopping ... FOR A NEW FIANCE!"
A third user agreed, writing simply: "You don’t need a new dress you need a new fiancé. NTA (not the a**hole)."
So, what do you think our bride should do? Let us know in the comments section!
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Published 14:35 30 Jul 2025 GMT
A newlywed has taken to Reddit to share her distressing experience with her mother-in-law, who she says attempted to upstage her on her wedding day, with some wildly inappropriate behavior.
While weddings are meant to be one of the happiest days of a couple's life, they can also sometimes be fraught with tension, particularly if one member of the wedding party is acting up.
Posting in the popular r/weddingshaming subreddit, the bride explained that the incident took place during a destination wedding. Alongside a blurred photo of the bride, groom, and the groom’s mother, the poster described an emotionally fraught lead-up to the big day.
“She cried LOUDLY the night before our destination wedding about how disappointed she was that her son chose me ‘out of all his options,’” the bride wrote. “Then proceeded to not sign the guest book or gift us anything, even a card.”
To make matters worse, the bride's mother-in-law rocked up to the wedding wearing an almost-identical dress to the bride... Yikes!
The post has since garnered hundreds of comments, with users offering sympathy, sharing their own similar experiences, and expressing disbelief at the mother-in-law’s behavior. Many highlighted how the story reflects a broader pattern of strained in-law relationships that often come to a head during weddings.
“This happened to my best friend,” one user commented. “It was a small wedding. Her mother-in-law wore traditional Korean hanbok in bright pink and blue and cried all through dinner — not tears of joy. Her family just ignored it.”
Others shared more blunt accounts of interference and passive-aggressive behavior. “My grandma wandered around my parents’ wedding saying, ‘Today is worse than the day the barn burned down,’” another wrote.
While many expect wedding days to be stressful, tales like these underline how family dynamics — especially with in-laws — can take tension to another level. The phenomenon isn’t new, but social media and platforms like Reddit and TikTok have amplified such stories, creating a space for people to share their experiences and find solidarity.
One Reddit commenter summed up the sentiment shared by many: “‘Didn’t sign the guest book or send a gift,’ but she still showed up to make sure she was in all the photos, in white, no less.”
Outside of Reddit, TikTok users have also joined in to swap shocking stories. In response to one woman’s video calling for the “wildest mother-in-law moments,” replies included everything from parking lot surveillance to deeply personal accusations.
“Judges me for being a stay-at-home mom and ‘using her son for money,’” one user claimed. Another added: “She sits in the parking lot watching us through our windows.”
Perhaps most distressingly, a third wrote: “She called me a murderer three hours after I gave birth to my stillborn daughter.”
While these stories may seem extreme, the viral attention they receive suggests they strike a chord. For many, wedding day woes are less about misplaced flowers or late guests, and more about complicated family dynamics that don’t always get left at the church doors.
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Published 16:33 23 Sep 2021 GMT
A mom has asked social media users for advice after revealing that she kicked her mother-in-law out of her home after criticizing her son for wearing a dress.
Taking to Reddit's 'Am I The A**hole?' section - where somebody shares a story and other Redditors debate on who is in the wrong - the doting mom titled her issue: "AITA for kicking MIL out over comments on my son wearing a dress?"
Writing under the username 'lovemykidsthrow', she explains that her six-year-old son likes to wear dresses indoors sometimes. This is something that neither his mom nor his dad have an issue with, with the supportive mom explaining: "If he comes out as trans, gay, whatever my husband and I 100% support him and love him the way he is."
However, her son's choice to wear a dress suddenly became an issue when her mother-in-law started staying at the family's home for a few weeks.
"The second day she's here my son wears a dress. MIL makes a screwy face and asks my husband what he's doing out of our son's earshot. I didn't quite hear what my husband said but MIL kept a screwy face for the rest of the day but made no more comment," the mom writes.
The mom then explains that a couple of days later, her son once again decided to wear a dress. However, instead of speaking to the child's father, her mother-in-law instead asked the youngster "in a very judgy and mean tone": "Why don't you go put some jeans on? Why do you want to wear a dress?"
Continuing, the mom writes: "He had tears in his eyes and came over to me for a cuddle. He was sad and ashamed. I comforted him and told him 'nope you're fine to wear a dress please don't worry'."
Speaking to her mother-in-law away from her son, the mom explained: "I told her that I want my kids to love themselves and it's very important for me and her son to install self-confidence in them.
"And that I would prefer she stay with her daughter instead."
So, after a phone call, the mother-in-law was sent to stay with her daughter.
"MIL expressed how she couldn't believe we were being so drastic," the mom adds, "But it's our house and we take her attitude against our son very seriously. This is a judge-free house in that way."
After explaining that several other family members have now been in touch to share their disagreement with the mom, the Redditor says she can't help but have a "twinge of doubt" over the entire situation - and therefore she is seeking advice from other social media users.
And fortunately, Reddit was on her side.
One person commented: "Protecting your children from toxic, judgmental relatives is important. It DOES NOT MATTER that it's grandma. She is toxic and needed to have her eyes opened right there on the spot.
"The people telling you that you are wrong think that 'because family' is a good enough reason, but "because family" is the EXACT reason she cannot be in your home, around YOUR children. EXCELLENT parenting."
A second added: "Dresses are awesome and OP you’re an awesome momma for advocating for your child, keep it up!"
And a third wrote: "As someone who was assigned male at birth and recently learned about the joys of wearing a dress at age 27, I am jealous of your child.
"Not even knowing that that type of expression was an option at a young age really did a number on my sense of identity and self-esteem, so I can tell you that what you're doing can only help his mental health and self-esteem.
"You're modeling good behavior and standing up for what's right, and that's always the right decision.
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Published 12:11 06 Feb 2019 GMT
Weddings are stressful to plan for a variety of reasons. As a bride and groom you don't just have to think about what you're wearing, but what everyone else is too. You want to stand out from the rest, but also many like to give their groomsmen and bridesmaids a theme to follow so they look good as part of the ceremony.
Not everyone makes it so easy, however...
In a Facebook rant, one bride-to-be revealed her disquiet over her mother-in-law's choice of dress. She asked her guests to stick to a pink, blush and peach colour theme, but her partner's mother decided to choose a white dress... with a train. Not only that, but she's now refusing to change.
The chosen dress features a floral design on the white fabric, but the bridal-style train has caused the bride some serious concern. She soon confronted her mother-in-law over the design, but instead found that she wasn't going to change it, which led her to share her frustrations on Facebook.
“Is it as bad as I think it is?” she wrote, sharing a photo of the outfit. “Please tell me it’s as bad as I think it is and I’m not overreacting for it being too white? We gave her around five colours to pick from in our theme and tried to make it fun for her because she’s been so unexcited about the whole wedding."
The bride reportedly took her for a day of shopping, but despite this received a message afterwards to say that she'd bought a dress on her own. She refused to show her the design, but the groom's little sister managed to get a snap of herself wearing it - and the photo revealed the bride's absolute worst fears.
“I don’t want to be the same colour as the bridesmaids and any light pink, blush, peach colours like that wash me out,” the mother-in-law wrote once she was confronted over the dress. “I’m sorry that y’all don’t think I can pick out a presentable dress for your wedding. I feel like I’m an embarrassment to everyone and have to have my dress picked out like I’m a child. It hurts.”
She then said that if they felt as if she was going to “embarrass” her with what she chooses to wear, she can “just sit in the back”. Many people defended the bride-to-be after the post was shared to a wedding shaming Facebook group.
“Who and why would you think that it’s acceptable to wear a white dress WITH A TRAIN to your sons wedding??” one person wrote, while another added: “No one wears white to a wedding … It’s disrespectful. It’s their day don’t ruin it by wearing something with a train or white.”
Others picked up on "manipulative thing of ‘Oh I’ll just sit in the back and leave right after’ sob story," with one user writing: “Holy emotional manipulation!!!”
However, there were some who believed that the dress was fine, and they couldn't understand how it looked like a wedding dress. “Without the train I can’t see this passing as a wedding dress, so maybe if she can get it altered?” one person asked, suggesting that during the event the bride would be more eye-catching anyway.
So, what do you think? Is this way over the line, or is the bride-to-be overreacting?
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