Parent ignites huge debate after saying tickling is 'child abuse'

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Now, I'm sure many of us can remember when we were kids and our moms or dads or grandparents or aunts or uncles, etc. would pick us up off the ground and tickle us pink.

Despite shouting "stop it", there was always some part of us that enjoyed laughing away as we fell to the ground in hysterics.

However, now one mom has sparked a huge debate on social media after she claimed that unconsented ticking is the same as "child abuse" - and if the child says "stop", then the adult must stop.

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In the mother's post - which has been shared widely on Facebook - the mom was responding to another parent, and said: "If they [kids] come looking for it/ask for it, they like it [tickling].

"Stop when they ask you to stop."

Per the New Zealand Herald, the mom added that "it's about consent", and explains that a parent should be teaching their child: "Their body, their rules."

Related - This expert claims that parents should ask babies for consent before changing their diaper:

However, the other parents was left bewildered by the mom's claims, and responded: "So it'd be child abuse to do it to my kids?"

The other parent also pointed out that many young children change their mind on a dime, explaining: "They will literally tell you to stop, then immediately ask to be tickled more.

"But generally it's actually the best way to momentarily paralyze a toddler in order to get shoes on them."

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But that little joke failed to ease the tension, as the first mom once again replied saying: "This [not tickling] is one small thing you can do to show respect. It's easy and causes no harm. Why wouldn't you?"

And - as you probably expected - the mom was then inundated with responses saying that she has taken the playful issue far too seriously.

One Facebook user commented: "Tickling isn't going to traumatise a kid in this case."

While a second added: "What? We argue about tickling now? 2020 is the worst."

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Nevertheless, there were several people who agreed with the mom's perspective, with one person writing: "I tickle my kids, but stop the second they ask me to."

"I agree that it's a great way to teach consent," another Facebook user commented.

And one person even went as far as to say she "hated" being tickled when she was younger: "I hate being tickled because my brother and sister would tickle me and tickle me and tickle me and wouldn't stop even when I started crying. I'm totally with [the mom]."