In a deeply touching ceremony that unfolded exactly as she had planned it herself, 23-year-old Lily Thai was remembered as an "intelligent, compassionate, and brave" young woman.
Lily's life ended a week ago when she chose to use South Australia's voluntary assisted dying laws after enduring years of intense pain and illness.
At the memorial service, Lily's mother, Kate Sparrow, addressed the mourning attendees, recounting fond memories of her daughter's vibrant energy and her love for life.
"She grew into a kind and compassionate young woman, engaging with people from many different walks of life. She became a beautiful young woman – intelligent, compassionate and brave," Kate eloquently shared, per the Daily Mail.
Remembering Lily's passion for fairy tales, her mother concluded her tribute with a poignant quote from one of Lily's favorite childhood stories, Winnie the Pooh. "I proudly say, ‘if there ever comes a day when we can’t be together, keep me in your heart and I’ll stay there forever’."
She continued, "As we say goodbye today, I say, spread your wings my beautiful girl and fly like a bird."
Lily's courageous decision to seek solace from her daily suffering caused by the debilitating disorder Ehlers Danlos Syndrome (EDS) touched the hearts of people nationwide.
Lily made the brave choice to end her life when South Australia’s voluntary assisted dying laws came into effect on January 31.
On June 21, doctors provided a fast-acting intravenous medication, and Lily peacefully passed away surrounded by her loved ones.
Lily's input in planning her own funeral extended to the minute details, including what was placed in her coffin and the music that was played. A final wish of hers was to have her favorite artist, Billie Eilish's music, played loudly during her transportation to Centennial Park cemetery.
She also created a comforting music playlist for her family and friends, spending quality time with loved ones, and transforming her hair into a natural diamond.
Lily had a collection of items placed in her coffin to "accompany her into the next world", including her Scotch College blazer, cherished jewelry pieces, a painting of her cockatiel, soft toys, and a wooden cross gifted by her cardiologist.
Eulogies from friends and colleagues lauded Lily's remarkable intelligence, kindness, and deep love for humans and animals. The celebrant expressed that Lily had left a "deep and lasting impression" on everyone she encountered.
Annaliese Holland, a close friend who stood by Lily during her hospice care, tearfully shared, "I pinky promised her, and I don’t ever break pinky promises, that we would cherish those last moments together."
She added, "I’ll always remember you, cherish you and keep you in my heart. We will be eating your dad’s pizza together up there together one day, I promise you. I will fight until I can’t … because no one should have to go through what we have at 23."
Lily was diagnosed with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome (EDS), a condition affecting the joints, skin, and blood vessels, at the age of 17. She opened up about her decision to the Adelaide Advertiser, saying, "I decided that pain was so severe it wasn’t worth it, and I just wanted to take it into my own hands.”
To commemorate Lily's memory, donations can be made to the Hospital Research Foundation Group Palliative Care. Lily's wish was to establish a palliative care unit specifically for young people with terminal conditions.
