A wise person once said that everything in life is about sex.
While that may or may not be true, particularly if you are celibate or else simply not particularly interested in making the beast with two backs on a semi nightly basis, for a large portion of the world's population, sex is an overpowering element of their modern lives.
We are confronted with sexual imagery everywhere we go, from racy billboards on the subway advertising the latest protein shake to the glossy covers of magazines that advise their readers on anything and everything from sex positions to dirty talk.
Instagram is chock full of models posing in angular, provocative fashion; chiselled abs and bulging biceps or else perfectly toned legs and million dollar smiles selling us something a little more profound; a way of life, a dream, an unattainable half reality.
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This obsession with copulation is nothing new, though, of course. Sex is one of our most primal instincts, the need to reproduce and keep our species alive and kicking, though perhaps now more than ever before we are beginning to explore sexual parameters with less prejudice and more intellectual enquiry.
This certainly rings true in the world of science; more and more research is being done into relationships and sexual intercourse, from how best to live happily with your partner to decidedly more intimate aspects of one's bedroom activity.
Now, though, research from Dr. Kristen Mark, a sex researcher from the University of Kentucky, has established something that goes counter to most of our ideas on sex and relationships might actually be the key to having a better time in bed.
Dr Mark reasons that some novelty is eventually needed in the bedroom, before the act of sex becomes boring and monotonous, the same day after endless day. When this happens, cheating is likely to follow hot on the heels of the boredom.
According to Dr Mark, it is vital to talk about what you want in bed, though doing this effectively might involve a small lie, as she explains;
“Even when you’ve been with someone for years, talking about sex can be scary because you’re exposing a really vulnerable part of yourself.
“Especially if you’re introducing something new that you want to try."
Undoubtedly true, so what is one to do about this predicament? Apparently, all you need to do is frame your desires around a simple statement; claim that your sexual desires were the subject of a sex dream you had the previous night, and that the both of you were "trying whatever sex act is on your naughty to-do list.”
That way, you can gauge your partner's reaction to whatever kinky sex fantasy you have, without feeling as though you have exposed your deepest darkest desires plainly when you might not feel comfortable doing so. Not bad, right?
