Being in a relationship with someone usually involves a few tell-tale milestones that help you figure out how you guys feel about each other and what your relationship means. There are the first dates, the non-stop texting phase, the first kiss, first sleepover, first time meeting friends, then family, and the very first "I love you".
But what is it that really makes a person realise they're in love with someone? It's less of a big light-bulb epiphany and more like a bunch of little clues that niggle at someone until they feel so overwhelmed by them that they have to say something. And they don't just disappear – these little moments you guys share will have him falling deeper in love with you every time you experience them.
We've put together a neat list of 12 of these things that make him fall even more in love with you, some of which you probably never even thought about. Here they are.
1. When he dreams of you in his sleep
If he wakes up and remembers that he's dreamt of you – no matter what you were doing or who else you were with – he realises that you're in his subconscious now. And that means he's thinking about you when he doesn't even mean to.
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2. When you whip up a delicious morsel for him
"The way to a man's heart is through his stom-" yeah, yeah. We've heard it all before, but it's true. Preparing a meal for someone is an act of love, and even if it's just a really good sandwich or a batch of pancakes, they'll fall more in love with you with each bite because they'll feel cared for.
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3. When you make him laugh a really good, honest, not-just-out-of-politeness laugh
Same goes if you laugh at his jokes. Responding to your delightful banter and quality gags with genuine laughter will boost confidence and establish a new mutual kind of understanding between you. Laughing also releases endorphins – the body's natural feel-good chemicals – so you guys will just be in a really great mood when you're together too.
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4. When they see you across the room at a party and you're entertaining a crowd of people
Looking at you from a distance flourishing in a social situation makes appreciate that he has you, and he'll feel proud. Seeing others enjoying your company will reinforce his own desires for you too. Especially if you catch his eye from across the room – boom! – super-strong love feelings are ignited.
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5. When you fall asleep on him
On his shoulder, on his chest or trapping him with a faceful of hair if you fall asleep when you're spooning – these little moments will make him think you're adorable (that is until he can literally no longer feel his fingers). You're showing that you trust him and that you're comfortable enough around him to nod off, and he'll love you for that.
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6. When he sees you seeking adrenalin or doing something adventurous
Seeing you with courage, determination, and thrill on your face if you're doing something adventurous together will make you both feel more alive. Solving an escape room together, whizzing down the alps on skis, or embarking on some urban exploration will give you both a heightened emotional state, and your senses and feelings will be tingling so much more than if you just went for drinks at your local bar.
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7. After really, really good sex
It's a no-brainer that giving him a mind-blowing orgasm will ignite a very intense kind of passion towards you. Even if you have sex quite regularly, there are some occasions where he'll feel so lucky to have you as his partner – both in and out of the bedroom.
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8. When you visit somewhere new together
Traveling to a foreign destination, going to a party where neither of you really know anyone, or just trying out the local swimming pool for the first time – these are environments with rules that are unfamiliar to you, and navigating them together will make you appreciate each other more than ever.
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9. When you're there for him
Even if he's in the foulest mood, if you're trying to cheer him up or support him through a very trying time at work or a bad injury that's ruined his football season, he'll really appreciate you being there and trying to understand why he's upset. When everything else sucks, at least he's got you.
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10. After spending a LOT of time together
It could be one of those dates that starts with brunch, and then leads to one activity after the other until you've realised you've spent every mealtime together that day. Or maybe you've been in bed all day watching movies and doing ~other~ activities, but in any case, if you've realised you just spent 24 hours together and you didn't get sick of each other, you'll know you've got a really good thing going on.
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11. ... And when you've had a big chunk of time apart
If he hasn't seen you for a long period of time because one of you is away on holiday or for a work thing, they'll realise how much they love you and miss spending time with you. Once you're reunited again it'll feel so good.
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12. When you ask them to pretty please help you with something
Asking your partner to help you move a newly purchased wardrobe up the stairs or to provide some advice on how to keep your poor, limp fern alive will make them feel needed. Feeling like your expertise (or brute strength) is valuable to someone makes you feel good about yourself. And ultimately, feeling needed and worthy makes them love you more.
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While you shouldn't try to manipulate your partner into loving you more, at least now you know which moments you share will make him get the feels. Grand gestures are nice and all, but it's really the little things that count.
