'13 Reasons Why' star Tommy Dorfman confronts Delta staff after being misgendered

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By Asiya Ali

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Tommy Dorfman has claimed that two Delta Air Lines employees "intentionally" misgendered her at the airport.

The 31-year-old actress, who played Ryan Shaver in the popular Netflix drama series 13 Reasons Why, came out as a transgender woman with Time magazine in 2021.

Dorfman took to TikTok earlier this week to share a now-deleted video of herself confronting the gate agents at LaGuardia Airport about what she described as a "human rights violation".

In the clip, which has since been reposted on other social media platforms, one worker was heard using the Sharp Stick actress' preferred pronoun "she" before mistakenly switching to "he," prompting Dorfman to interrupt him.

Watch the now-deleted TikTok below:

"You just misgendered me again," Dorftman said to the unnamed worker. "Multiple times. Both of you have."

The employee calmly responded: "It wasn’t intentional, but if you want to take it personal, that’s also OK," to which Dorfman continued to voice her concerns.

The staffer then called out her "condescending" tone and warned: "If you want to continue, I’ll have Port Authority escort you out of the building right this moment if you want to play that game with me."

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The actress has since deleted the video. Credit: Taylor Hill / Getty

"Would you like to continue three days before Christmas? I really don’t mind," they added, which led to Dorfman sighing and putting the camera down.

Initially, the Love in the Time of Corona actress penned in the caption of her post - which she removed on Wednesday (December 27) morning - that the male agent was named Tristan and that "he was fine with" the clip being shared online. She did not publicly name the female employee who also allegedly misgendered her.

"When you try to advocate for yourself at @delta and are met with [sic] even more transphobia and threats of being arrested at LaGuardia," she wrote in the caption. "Didn't realize it was condescending to flag a human rights violation after another employee misgendered me incessantly."

It is unclear what led to the confrontation.

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Tommy Dorfman was allegedly misgendered by staff at LaGuardia Airport. Credit: Taylor Hill / Getty

The altercation has prompted fierce comments on social media, with users defending both Dorfman and the Delta employee.

One person wrote: "Don’t assume. Just ask what someone prefers to be called. It is basic manners," while another said: "If it was a genuine mistake the staff member would [have] apologized properly and insisted on making Tommy's travel experience more comfortable as a way of apology for her trouble, but instead this staff member proceeded to make the situation worse by threatening to kick her out."

Meanwhile, some disagreed as one user penned: "It was days before Christmas! I’m sure the airport was a scene of total mayhem. The employee seemed to have a lot to manage and I don’t believe he was intentionally misgendering Dorfman."

A second also pointed out: "These people were working their asses off during one of the busiest travel times of the year. Their priority was getting people on planes so they could get to their loved ones on time. Try having some empathy."

In a statement shared with Newsweek, Delta said it is "aware of the video and looking into the matter, including reaching out to our customer to understand more about what occurred".

Featured image credit: Cindy Ord  / Getty

'13 Reasons Why' star Tommy Dorfman confronts Delta staff after being misgendered

vt-author-image

By Asiya Ali

Article saved!Article saved!

Tommy Dorfman has claimed that two Delta Air Lines employees "intentionally" misgendered her at the airport.

The 31-year-old actress, who played Ryan Shaver in the popular Netflix drama series 13 Reasons Why, came out as a transgender woman with Time magazine in 2021.

Dorfman took to TikTok earlier this week to share a now-deleted video of herself confronting the gate agents at LaGuardia Airport about what she described as a "human rights violation".

In the clip, which has since been reposted on other social media platforms, one worker was heard using the Sharp Stick actress' preferred pronoun "she" before mistakenly switching to "he," prompting Dorfman to interrupt him.

Watch the now-deleted TikTok below:

"You just misgendered me again," Dorftman said to the unnamed worker. "Multiple times. Both of you have."

The employee calmly responded: "It wasn’t intentional, but if you want to take it personal, that’s also OK," to which Dorfman continued to voice her concerns.

The staffer then called out her "condescending" tone and warned: "If you want to continue, I’ll have Port Authority escort you out of the building right this moment if you want to play that game with me."

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The actress has since deleted the video. Credit: Taylor Hill / Getty

"Would you like to continue three days before Christmas? I really don’t mind," they added, which led to Dorfman sighing and putting the camera down.

Initially, the Love in the Time of Corona actress penned in the caption of her post - which she removed on Wednesday (December 27) morning - that the male agent was named Tristan and that "he was fine with" the clip being shared online. She did not publicly name the female employee who also allegedly misgendered her.

"When you try to advocate for yourself at @delta and are met with [sic] even more transphobia and threats of being arrested at LaGuardia," she wrote in the caption. "Didn't realize it was condescending to flag a human rights violation after another employee misgendered me incessantly."

It is unclear what led to the confrontation.

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Tommy Dorfman was allegedly misgendered by staff at LaGuardia Airport. Credit: Taylor Hill / Getty

The altercation has prompted fierce comments on social media, with users defending both Dorfman and the Delta employee.

One person wrote: "Don’t assume. Just ask what someone prefers to be called. It is basic manners," while another said: "If it was a genuine mistake the staff member would [have] apologized properly and insisted on making Tommy's travel experience more comfortable as a way of apology for her trouble, but instead this staff member proceeded to make the situation worse by threatening to kick her out."

Meanwhile, some disagreed as one user penned: "It was days before Christmas! I’m sure the airport was a scene of total mayhem. The employee seemed to have a lot to manage and I don’t believe he was intentionally misgendering Dorfman."

A second also pointed out: "These people were working their asses off during one of the busiest travel times of the year. Their priority was getting people on planes so they could get to their loved ones on time. Try having some empathy."

In a statement shared with Newsweek, Delta said it is "aware of the video and looking into the matter, including reaching out to our customer to understand more about what occurred".

Featured image credit: Cindy Ord  / Getty